Solace(dom male)
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10 months ago •
Aug 4, 2023
10 months ago •
Aug 4, 2023
As a male, I can't speak for a lady. I will do my best to elucidate my own perspective though.
"Chastity" in its brief or long forms is very useful. Certainly for some it is an outright kink, the idea of someone holding their urges and need back, potentially writhing in place as they deal with pent up sensations. Certainly its also appealing if in those desperate moments that person is thinking about you, the Dom. The idea of someone reserving themselves for you, thinking of you in depths of their need, and being ready for you...its incentivizing. Certainly there are subs who enjoy similar ideas but from the reverse side of the coin.
However, by itself chastity has utility. It certainly can be used as a punishment as many subs do not like such play options being removed. However a sub can also be put in chastity as a measure of or practice of their commitment to following the Dom's word. In can serve as a mental and physical reminder of who has power over the sub, linking the concepts of a Dom's displeasure with bad and approval with good.
Sexually it can keep a sub ready and "On demand" so to speak. For example for some ladies I have had relations with over extended distances...I might rile them up thoroughly through conversation and then "lock them" for a few days or a week before I see them in person. When we meet the ladies are more than eager to progress things past conversation and can actually have a much more enjoyable time as they burn off their tensions frustrations in one or several rapid fire sessions. In person meetings aside, this manipulation of need can focus a sub's thoughts consistently on the Dominant leading to greater dependency and reliance. Indeed I get far more messages from a girl in chastity than I do otherwise for obvious reasons, and while I haven't made a statistical study of it, the effect persists even after release.
I am certain more experienced members of the community will be be able to guide you better, but this is my pen to paper to begin the discussion.
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