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Yes I know I am behind on my days. I got a bit behind and to be perfectly honest I am not a great artist and a bit shy about sharing my work due to some bad past trauma with it and an ex. However I have decided that I will share my work with you all to help boost my confidence and show that I do have skills and dont really care if you like it or not because I like it. If you dont like it then, there's the button to return to blogs, push it and move on. Don't comment, don't hate just leave it's easy.

This is October 1st the word is: Ring

--Kit--

When you are helping to teach others new things you quickly learn that you have to change the way you teach them. Not everyone learns in the same methods. Everyone's points of view are different. This can depend on what was recently described to me as a "generational gap"  which does make a lot of sense. The older generation grew up with Old Guard vs New Guard protocols which have different standards. Now I cannot begin to say that I fully understand these as I am in no way close to an expert in them. What I can say is I have met a lot of people on both sides of the fence in each of the two groups. They are as diverse as the vanilla community is in the way that no two communities are the same. Just as no two girl scout troops will agree on what activity they should get together and do for their next meet up without it involving a ton of other people and debate. The list can go on and on but you get my point.

The more you teach and understand about the students you are teaching, the more you learn that communication is a HUGE factor that often becomes a problem because for some odd reason, *cough society cough*, there is a pressure to be solo when you have intense feelings. When anything is going on in your life then you shouldn't share it but keep it to yourself rather than share it. So many people these days keep things in when they should be talking them out. They pretend they know about things to prevent themselves looking silly or stupid. There is again no need for it when all you have to do is admit you don't know something and the one you are talking to will more than likely happily explain what they mean and be overjoyed you wanted to lern about it. I know that when people ask me about stuff they dont know and I do, I.E. puppy play, I am more than happy to talk about it and help teach them all about the wonderful world and dynamics of it because it is my passion and lifestyle as well as a part of who I am as a whole.

Then again as it is said "With great power, comes great responsibility" which to me as an Alpha means looking after those I love and reading between the lines and knowing what isn't being said. Learning the signs that may be subtle and hard to read through text. It is not easy but after a few years of managing a pack I have learned that when puppies start retreating inwards then it is time to think about why, start looking not at them, but at myself. What have I done recently with them that might have caused a change? Then from there you work toward the pup and move inward. Eventually that leads to some realizations that solve problems and you can have happy solutions that work out for everyone in the long run and keep everything peaceful as it should be.

--Kit--

So it's funny how in life you can get slightly frustrated at things and at such said times you ask seemingly random questions to the universe in which you expect no answer at all. An example of this would be "How can I figure out how to best fix my pup's lives and enhance them for their benefit?" You ask yourself this while also wondering how when you as a leader know you are the teacher and educator for them, but yet who do you turn to in order to learn new things? All very good legit questions, to which of course you don't really have answers for other than the internet. You turn there and out of nowhere while scrolling along you happen across a useful and very helpful blog. You talk to someone who is incredibly helpful and gives you ideas to help you learn.

So you decide to make a list of questions based on the knowledge you gained and questions you should know that will help further others development and your training for them. As you learn more about them new questions come up so of course your format changes. You ask regular questions like age, what do you like and dislike in BDSM and limits as per normal which helps but also vanilla stuff so you can plan day trips, hang out days and possibly dates in the future. What they trip over and really throws them off are questions about favorites, food, colors, numbers, and animals or even if there are problems what signs to look for or recognize.

So after gathering data and then rewriting the format into a style in which is kept easily and orderly, reading back over it all you see patterns emerge that you normally would never have otherwise known. Connections that normally are over looked that bring your people closer together and is very useful.

It also got me thinking as well. For those of you who read my blog and may, or may not know by now (if you are curious about it contact me privately), we have a condition called DID or Dissociative Identity Disorder formerly called Multiple Personality Disorder. Basically many different people in one shared body. While doing this information collecting and writing I got to thinking that while it was good to know about the others, it would also be good to know about ourselves inside using the same basic format. Find out more about everyone to further understanding.

Hence my earlier questions of "How can I figure out how best to fix my pup's lives and enhance them for their benefit?" As well as wondering where to turn to as a leader to learn new things have both been answered by the universe if not in the direct way, most obvious or expected. This goes to show that one can never stop learning new things and that the universe is always listen whether we think so or not. Always be careful because if you ask a question it will be answered like it or not.

--Chester--

Every day is new, something to teach and help others work on and see. As a dominant Alpha puppy working with a pack there is not a whole lot of time to get rest when you have 5 active pups during the day to constantly monitor plus vanilla life which brings the total of things you have to keep track of to a round dozen. It is always good to stay busy of course, but with a dozen things to keep track of all at the same time things get hectic rapidly! One thing gets out of balance and its like a Jenga! game that someone pulled the wrong block.

However chaos often serves a purpose as well. One we often forget, that while it can cause disruptions and stress, it can also teach us valuable life lessons. Ones that maybe we knew before and forgot, or refused to see until they were presented in a way we could no longer ignore. Life lessons are not meant to be easy, they are never fun and exciting but hard and usually difficult either mentally or emotionally. But the reason they are is because if they were easy they would be easily forgotten. The harder a task is, the longer it stays and harder it is to forget.

I have always said the best way to figure out how to meet your match is to first know about yourself. Not "think you know" as in I like this not this, or what your favorite foods are, but stop, find a quiet place for yourself, and I challenge you this. When was the last time you spent time alone with yourself? Sat down, closed your eyes and looked deeply inside at yourself. Gotten to know and understand yourself better on a deeper more personal level? Do you even have the courage to do so? To look further into the deepest corners, the darkest places and find what is lurking, what might be there? Face what is hidden inside and find out more about yourself? You may be surprised that once you do this and really get to know yourself for who you really are, that there is this absolutely wonderful person with great fantastic times inside. Remember things you once forgotten long ago that bring simple pleasure to your life.

People are filled with great wisdom and pure joy and happiness as well as large amounts of knowledge but doubt themselves and lock away what they know. They let society tell them who they should be and why, how they should act, what they need to do when it just causes them to stress. My point is that after a long conversation that was extremely meaningful to me, I was able to restructure the way I was doing things within my puppy pack structure that has changed the way our dynamics are working. It is changing everything for the better.

While improving some lives it can cause slight breakdowns, repairing can actually strengthen the bonds and help build the lives back up to make things 10 times better through the wisdom you will gain picking yourself back up. When you have the right people around you helping give that support and love then anything can be achievable. You cannot choose your biological family, however you can choose a new family through the people you choose to be around. As in a pack, super close friends you choose to call family or pets.

---Pup Kit---

Life has a way of making sure you understand that not everything is okay, it is not going to be the way you plan it out and even though you want it one way, it will never go according to plan. Anytime you become overwhelmingly happy and comfortable with life, it has a way of making sure everything is upset, turned on its head, shaken up and screwed so hard you forget how things actually fit together. It is like life is a test of how much will power you have to keep going. To make it through every challenge that is presented just to see what you will do and how you can power through everything.

The key is making sure that in order to keep yourself safe, you keep a safety bubble around yourself. While making friends, you keep a strong safety bubble that locks away everything inside and let no one inside. No one can then get in and when things go south its okay. Because then it doesnt really matter, they didn't really know you. Therefore it doesn't really matter if they leave or push you away. In this world it is best to figure out how the world works, where your place is, and what the right actions for you to take are in order for others to feel comfortable around you.

A silent tiger stalks in the background, away from others without being seen, heard or causing any ripples. No one sees or hears him, they wont know he is there. Watching his surroundings and understanding the dynamics of everything. Isolating himself but understanding the entire environment in order to remain safe in all aspects at all times. Never exposing any part of the body to dangerous areas like the back to open areas. Keeping track of all things.

Keeping vigilant in our every day lives and never losing our focus on our goals, will help keep us safe, hyper vigilant and safe from those who intend to harm us. Constantly guarding both our mental and physical well being will ensure no one gets close enough to cause damage. 

-Kato-

Going to events is always an exciting thing to do. Even going on vacation is fun and exciting and can be an adventure that is full of surprises and memories in which you will cherish forever. It is time in which you get to go, have fun and enjoy yourself away from the normal world. To let loose and be who you normally are without the judgment of others. You are in a place where no one really knows you and therefore you are able to be who you want to be and therefore can truly be happy which of course is a wonderful and great feeling to have flowing through your entire body. It brings on a euphoric high point. Unfortunately, all good things must come to an end. As the saying goes what goes up, must come down. Now in most instances while this is a sad event it passes okay because there is support and you learn to cope in a day or three, there are some who suffer for many weeks afterwards simply due to the fact that their vacation from reality, was more a break from their time in hell. They ran from their prison and abusive captors for a time and enjoyed it so very much, upon return instead of getting the loving help and care needed to transition from vacation/event needed, all they get is abuse, insults, attacks and grief 24/7 for everything from body size to the way they look.

It show the true strength of a Dominant to be able to pull your sub's head up and give their wings wind to fly when they have severe depression when they live in another country and all you have to communicate with is a laptop, a phone and can use only text chat and video chat. To stay up late, get up early and spend nearly all day every day boosting their spirits, re-enforcing how awesome they are, how strong they really are and how much they really do mean to the world. To pull them out of the depression they are trapped in and push them in the right positive direction that is going to bring them into a better more safe direction in the long term, without being sucked into depression yourself. That strength can be extremely exhausting on a person no matter who you are. To show one person that kind of dedication and time, compassion and heart, shows you really do care, that you won't give up on them and that they are most definitely worth every ounce of effort and time you have ever invested in them.

Help others and be kind. Check in with them. Show another your kindness. You have no idea what they are going through, what they have been through or might in the future. No one knows what the future holds. Be kind everyday to everyone you meet no matter how mean others are to you. Shake the hand of a stranger and say thank you. You have no idea what kind of positive impact you might make on their world by doing it. You might just end up saving their life. Showing compassion, caring and heart to others is free, so why not spread more compassion around rather than hate, upset and "it's all about me" mentality? help teach the worlds children a new way, the way that says treat others how you want to be treated, with love and kindness and help change the world for the better.

-Chester-

There are some times in life in which you just cant help but laugh at either yourself or the circumstances in which you happen to find yourself in. Last night happened to be one of those events.

Hanging out with friends and packmates, other pups came around and introduced a new member of the community who happened to be curious about the puppy community and wanted to know more about it. Of course he began doing the usual questions, "What do you find so interesting about pup play, why do you do pup play, what is it that draws you to it," and so forth. Over the course of this conversation, the phrasing "vanillas don't really understand" came about. The amusing thing of course was that when this is brought about or said, the person usually always says "what is a vanilla?" Which of course he did. His boyfriend promptly told him "honey, in this instance, you are," of course this set everyone laughing. However he surprised us all by promptly informing us "I am more mocha than vanilla." Which of course he was referring to his skin tone. What I find amusing, is that how when you use the term "vanilla" most look at it almost like it is derogatory than it is descriptive. It is of course in no way meant to mean anything mean or bad, simply it means one is unused to the fetish world or what kinks mean and is new to it all.

It is a good thing they are willing to explore and be open about their curiosities. So when you are approached by a vanilla who is curious about your kink, or the kink world in general, be open, friendly and welcoming. Indulge their interests but don't scare them away by showing them things or explaining things to them that might make them want to run. Remember, we were all new to this at one point or another as well. Put yourself in their shoes and think back to how you would want to feel if you had yourself as a mentor and guide into this crazy wonderful world.

Teach them the fun happy stuff that makes them want to learn more and come back to visit again, to learn more and seduce them over to the dark side. While also teaching them how to be safe about it so they are not hurt or put in harms way and able to still have fun. Show them the dark side and how much fun it can be to release your stress, anxiety and all cares of the world that we all live and enjoy so they want to keep coming back. So they want to return and open their eyes even more and really see what awaits them on the other side of the closed doors.

--Chester--

Sometimes the circumstances we face in every day life end up backing us into unpleasant corners we never expected, and that others will never understand. While these corners are isolated, dark, and silent, do not feel sorry for them. They create moments of reflection. Times in which we may better understand our world and perhaps fix the cracks and leaks that are made. Let us memorize every inch of our surroundings better. Do not feel sorry for those who are isolated and forced into being alone, feel sorry for those forced into being social and crowded all the time. For they are the ones who cannot have time to reflect on who they are inside, who they want to become, who they really are. When you have no alone time you are too busy being who everyone else wants or thinks you are or should be you have no time to really figure out the real truth of yourself which is the sad part. I do think the song "I Stand Alone" by Steve Perry in Quest for Camelot says it best. Comfortable with your world, alone isolated but so familiar in your darkness its comforting and peaceful. You find strength in the silence, you learn more in your soul and what is there then you do in a crowded room of people and how to make the world work best for you.

-Chester-

Connections we make together are much like aspen trees. Linked together, valuable and very much needed. For without those connections one cannot survive, yet when one connection is broken, four more replace it to heal the bleeding wound.

Is a forbidding forest the product of a broken hearted tree being consoled by others love? Is the others surrounding and protecting the love of their lives, or are the hiding a dark secret in which you dont see until you venture forth far enough you sink into quick sand and it becomes too late to save yourself?

How many creatures are friendly within? How many are deadly? How to tell them apart before damage is done? How to see through the tricks, the deciept, even when it is not malicious or meant to be evil it is still evil in which it causes pain and disruption. There is always a way out, a lighter path to take the only problem is finding it.

Chester

We often talk to people using words and gestures we use every day. We often never think about what we say or do. What impact our words have on others even miles and oceans away.

Thing is: words have power, the question is, are you good or are you evil? Will you use your words like a sword to kill and chop someone's head off, or to defend them and save their life?

Talk, text, simple body language all has its meaning. Maybe you dont think about it, but the way you stand has power. Standing up, is your back straight and rigid, unwilling to move and bend with time, or is it straight but flexible, stance relaxed and calm, arms down but ready and mind open to new things ready to reach out like a tree to the light? Is is slouched, shoulders down head slightly tilted and eyes down seeing the bad but unwilling to use your words to save another?

Can you help another? Will you? Or will you stand aside and watch as their world falls apart, watch as they crumble and fall? Can you use your words of power to heal and save? Will you spend your time helping or watching them fall?

We are all strong, powerful and wonderful. We are all delicate fragile and in need of help. The combination of the two worlds makes wonderful people who do great things like Ghandi, Mother Threasa, Martain Luther King. All people who used words for power to change the world for good. Can you be like them, put words to great use to change someone's world for the good? Be a warrior for the light? 

Kato