3 weeks ago. Mon 26 Feb 2018 09:28:29 AM IST
Hello, my darlings. Put down your drinks and prepare for the first in a promised series. I'm placing ads on free BDSM sites, spending a good week there, and coming back with the results. If you don't want to read the whole thing, just skip to the bottom.
If you've been in the BDSM world for long, you've heard about CS. Actual Lifestylers and responsible kinksters go there to laugh and make fun. There are some absolutely insane personals there.....taboo, huanimals, etc. The majority are either abusers looking for broken women who feel that they don't deserve better, predators looking for newbie prey, or idiots living in fantasy land who are looking for doormats.
Kink there is on full display. No one hides it, no one covers it up. It's in your face. You can check a wide variety of interests and people know specifically what you're into. I screwed with mine a bit to reflect only vanilla interests and hard limits. You are going to learn that I like chili flavored pork rinds with Man Cave dip long before you find out that I like..... Anyway, guys weren't happy.
Actually, happy isn't the word to describe CS men. Aggressive and demanding would be better. Two messages and they want an offsite messenger. Half a day of talking to you on the site and they want a picture. There's this atmosphere of rush. It's like an online auction where the cost for a Dominant is your dignity and personality as you pander to manbaby egos. What the fuck ? Hell no !
My profile (RekindlingAria) was somewhat aggressive. I listed things I had refused to do and humanized myself. There was a definate attempt to be seen as person, lady, and submissive. I listed things that I was looking for and made it clear that I wasn't going to take just anyone. Didn't go over well. The messages dropped to a trickle. Maybe three new contacts a day verses the hundreds of messages that many women report on getting.
The majority of my responses who actually read my profile were men in their 50's and older. They appreciated my humor and spirit, but I had to politely point out that their age would make it a bit harder for me to form a relationship. Actually, one gentleman who was 79 approached me....at that point I added a desired age range.
The level of rudeness of there was astonishing. I would be talking to someone and they would suddenly just drop me without a goodbye. Yeah....no. The place lives up to the bottom of the barrel reputation.
Edit: I did meet some nice guys. They have my email.
Pros: large population, huge age range, good for nitche kinks and extreme masochists
Cons: extreme amounts of rudeness and entitlement, no community policing or feeling, pressure to immediately form attachment
Aria's verdict: Stay the Hell away unless you want to type in certain keywords and have a good laugh. Jokes are meant to be laughed at.