I thought this was a valuable way of dealing with any anxieties we all experience in both vanilla and kink life. I spent the day with a clinical psychologist learning how to assist people transitioning in their life.....
I couldn't help thinking I can use this in kink, when in a position that makes me feel stressed and anxious......
sometimes our thoughts and feelings are like a shaken snow globe, this is ok but prevents clarity of thought......now, breathe out slowly until you can Imagine the snow settles...try not to act on your thoughts and feelings until the globe is calm and there is a blanket of snow on the ground.
When you give up the sexual labels, you give yourself the freedom to live whatever lifestyle you choose, without adhering to a certain categorization. You liberate yourself from the box that you’ve put yourself in, and can live more openly and carefree. Labels can become limiting, because if you ever choose to change your lifestyle, you’ll say, “But wait, I’m ______, I can’t do that!”
However, outside of labels, you’ll come to understand that we can change our whole life in an instant, as we have that power. It all lies within the mind, so labels, in a way, can limit you from reaching your full potential. Getting caught up in sexual labels might actually hinder you from meeting someone you really connect with, just because you feel you can’t date a man or a woman due to your orientation.
Today, we have more labels for sexuality than ever: gay, straight, lesbian, queer, bisexual, asexual, pansexual, sapiosexual, fluid, and the list goes on. Many people try to find the right category for them, but find themselves confused and frustrated. Does the label REALLY matter that much? It may help others figure out what gender you like(if any), but what if one day you change your mind? Will you attach yourself to another label, or give them up altogether?
send a stupid question and get a stupid reply!
....it's earned...I'm a colourful persona...quash me and it manifests as brattish behaviour......every experience is a learning curve.
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People do not see you,
They invent you and accuse you.