We go to a steakhouse, and there are multiple choices for an appetizer; entree, side dishes, desserts, and drinks. On the minimum side, if there are 4 choices of appetizers, 4 choices of entrees, 4 side dishes, 4 desserts, and 4 drinks, PLUS 4 salad dressings and 4 sauces....If a person could choose only 1 of everything, there would be 16,384 options for a meal. We all know that restaurants have far more choices than what I listed. Now, factor in the number of restaurant variations, dining in or eating at home, alcoholic drinks, choosing more than one side....It gives me a headache, and I'm a math major!
Why do I discuss food like that and make everyone hungry? It's because each one of us is uniquely different. We might have one or more interests in common with someone else, but there is nobody else out there exactly like us. As a result, we each seek something specific to complement who we are. One person may be seeking someone who just enjoys kinky sex. Another person may want a TPE dynamic. You may want something completely heterosexual or only desiring a same-sex relationship. Do you yearn for monogamy or is a poly household right for you? At the end of the day, do you want to celebrate all of the accomplishments of a liberal representative, or do you want to demand more from a conservative politician? The bottom line is that if we are mature, we can accept and respect people for who they are. I'm not suggesting that we have to agree with their point of view, but we can still respect the person while disagreeing.
I have been told by numerous people that I'm too picky. I don't think it's a bad thing. I'm just constantly learning what qualities I seek in a person. I know that I desperately need a boring, vanilla romantic relationship in addition to a fiery, Master/Dom and slave/sub dynamic. How that combination appears would be completely dependent upon who is with me. I'm picky? If that's the case, then everyone here is also too picky. I have been told numerous times that someone wasn't interested in me for....pick whatever reason you desire. Guess what, that's OK. I am who I am. Whether or not there is a Master/Dom out there who seeks what I have is immaterial. After settling in two marriages and several "dynamics" that were disastrous, I have discovered that I don't have to settle. I want to be happy. The only way that will happen is when someone accepts me for who I am and is willing to work with me to make me the best woman I can be, not change me into some plastic doll they think they want.
This site's a menu. Pick and choose to your heart's content and be happy or make another choice!
