Sinful & Sweet

I guess I am old school and by this I mean I learned the first part of being interested in someone to be in the dynamic you enter the consideration stage… Things have changed and now it's vetting…  Asking questions to get to know them and their kink like What are their limits? What form of BDSM do they practice or want in a relationship? Do they practice in real life or online only? What are their views on safewords? Basically getting to know them in-depth and seeing if you have a connection with them. I guess that makes sense in a way. Communication is the key to everything. It’s how a foundation is created. Communication can be tricky and difficult. To clearly and accurately communicate one first needs to understand what it is they are trying to explain. Knowing yourself what you want, need, and even what triggers you. It is crucial to communicate that with someone clearly and help them understand what makes you tick. The other beautiful part is being able to understand the other person clearly as well. This can take time and trial and error to learn how to communicate together and be able to grow. Once that happens then the next part of the journey begins… Blending the needs, limits, and kinks/fetishes of those involved into a clean and clear roadmap is wonderful to be involved in or to watch. It is a masterpiece.