My Thoughts!

Lived the lifestyle most of my life. Hopefully my experiences will help you along your own individual journeys. Here's to the lifestyle!
2 weeks ago. Wed 01 Aug 2018 02:11:14 PM IDT

Lying, deceiving, conniving, tricked, swindled and bullshit. These are the things that hurt people and makes them weary of other people that they come in contact with. I know this because when I was much, much younger than I am now (over 30+ years ago), I used to do that very thing. Much has changed since then, including my philosophies. There's an old saying it takes a bullshit artist to know a bullshit artist. And I know this because I used to be one.

I say that to say this, if you know you're not meant to be in this lifestyle, and and you tell certain people that. Don't go around saying those things and then expect that certain people won't find out that that you're still engaging in the knowledge of the lifestyle. Because in the end, all you're really hurting is is yourself. Because if you're lying to yourself, you can lie to anyone.

And in my opinion that's something that absolutely will not be tolerated within the lifestyle.

In the words of Ice Cube..... "Yo better check yourself before yo wreck yourself."

2 weeks ago. Tue 31 Jul 2018 08:08:30 PM IDT

2 weeks ago. Mon 30 Jul 2018 08:45:30 PM IDT

3 weeks ago. Wed 25 Jul 2018 03:09:53 PM IDT

YOU ARE VALUED,

YOU ARE LOVED,

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!!!

3 weeks ago. Mon 23 Jul 2018 09:26:22 PM IDT

3 weeks ago. Mon 23 Jul 2018 01:31:26 PM IDT

I Personally don't demand respect, however I do expect to earn it. For those that expect it right off the bat, you must not have any in your life. Respect is like a form of trust, because once you lose it, it's very hard to regain if at all. My grandmother always told me "Treat people the way you would want to be treated." Even the scriptures say "Think of others more highly than yourself."

That last sentence, "Think of others more highly than yourself" really means something. It comes from a place of humility, from a place of unexpectedness. When people compliment me, on whatever I say or do. I Don't do it for others to see. I do it because in my heart, it is the right thing to do.

For those that expect immediate respect, do you honestly think that's the right thing for you to do? You expect someone to trust you blindly? And if you do, you have my pity. Because you truly don't understand what kind of power respect has.

Which is why I remain humble when certain people tell me "I respect you, your thoughts and your opinions."

Think about that next time you expect immediate respect.

 

Hope this helps,

 

TDO

4 weeks ago. Fri 20 Jul 2018 03:13:45 PM IDT

1 month ago. Wed 18 Jul 2018 05:28:45 PM IDT

For those that "claim" to be a "real Dom", when a submissive asks questions and you start demanding things right off the bat. You just proved how ignorant you are. Not to mention that you actually know nothing, if anything about the lifestyle.

And when you send an unsolicited "member pic" just remember, it's not a pic of your member that you show the submissive, it's actually you.

I've said it before, and I will say it for the next thousand times.

Half the battle of becoming a dominant is is simply being a gentleman first!

Submissives, don't fall for this nonsense.

 

Hope this helps,

 

TDO

1 month ago. Fri 13 Jul 2018 06:14:15 PM IDT

Just thought of this, but when you're having an awesome conversation, and after not hearing from that person for  some time. You make a little remark that makes the other person decide to run the other way without asking for an explanation (in my experience), they are just about games. I Don't like that, nor do I look for anyone like that!

 

Hope this helps,

 

TDO

1 month ago. Thu 12 Jul 2018 04:06:18 AM IDT

I know I have discussed this before, but it needs to be said again.

A Submissives beauty does not in any way, shape or form define how worthy she is as a submissive.

A submissive told me that after the initial greetings from one dom, the dom said "I need to see a picture of you."

Now I understand that not many submissives would feel comfortable sending their picture at first, as this makes them feel like an object being put up for sale (pardon the pun).

Submissives are human beings, but more importantly they have feelings that are sometimes delicate. The same thing goes for when they receive "member pics". If they never asked for it, why send it? In the end, the dom makes themselves look like what they sent in the unsolicited pic to begin with.

My point is this: While I do agree that there has to be some form of attraction in order for things to work. Looks are not everything. A submissives true worth, can be found in her heart, not in her looks. Because after all, looks change. The heart, and the actions associated with the heart is considered (in my own opinion) invaluable. And that is something that never changes.

 

Hope this helps

 

TDO