Thoughts of a caveman
2 days ago. Thu 16 Aug 2018 05:31:08 PM IDT

I’m comfortable without wrapping myself in knots too much, with the discomfort of ambiguity. It is necessary. Everything doesn’t get tied up neatly. In a sense the story never ends - it trails off into a myriad of side stories all connected yet different.



2 days ago. Thu 16 Aug 2018 03:50:56 PM IDT

In his book, Soul Cravings, Erwin Raphael McManus writes:

"Sex can be the most intimate and beautiful expression of love, but we are only lying to ourselves when we act as if sex is proof of love. Too many men demand sex as proof of love; too many women have given sex in hopes of love. We live in a world of users where we abuse each other to dull the pain of aloneness. We all long for intimacy, and physical contact can appear as intimacy, at least for a moment."



2 days ago. Thu 16 Aug 2018 01:54:32 PM IDT

Spiritual - pray and worship together, don’t underestimate the energy and power available to you through the living God. This is the intimacy wheel’s central hub to all the others. Get this right and the other intimacies will follow suit. 


Recreational - play together it’s just fun. Even chores can be fun if you work together.


Intellectual - mental exercise, discuss ideas and thoughts with each other, stimulating the mind helping each other develop and grow.


Emotional - experience life together sharing feelings honesty, both giving and receiving loving emotional support.


Physical - explore together allowing your bodies to become one in all things. As simple as holding hands or sitting together on the couch. My desire is only for you and you alone. 

2 days ago. Wed 15 Aug 2018 09:51:57 PM IDT

How many different types of intimacy do you think there are? I’m working on my list to share later.

3 days ago. Wed 15 Aug 2018 04:07:22 PM IDT

“We just don’t feel connected anymore.”

Somewhere along the timeline of their relationship they began to drift apart, and now they feel as if they are living lives that are only running on parallel tracks rather than living lives intimately connected. But how do you solve the problem of lost intimacy?


Any suggestions?

4 days ago. Tue 14 Aug 2018 03:45:55 PM IDT

But it’s not fair!


Who wrote the rule life must be fair to us? No one! It’s time to change your perception. There are three kinds of fair in this world. The World’s Fair, the State Fair, and lastly the County Fair. All three have one thing in common. None of them have anything to do with “being fair”. Our world is not fair, it has never been fair, nor will it ever be fair. It’s time to grow up and realize your perception of life is not always reality. 


Be careful what you ask for. You just might receive it. I’m old enough to know I don’t want life to be fair. In fact I’m glad life isn’t fair. Because what I really need is Love, Mercy, and Grace, not fairness! No life is not fair, but Love, Mercy and Grace abound, it’s God’s free gift to us. We must only receive it through free will.

4 days ago. Tue 14 Aug 2018 03:37:41 PM IDT

4 days ago. Tue 14 Aug 2018 03:42:54 AM IDT


Is it ok too masturbate? Let’s see for ourselves. 


Some religious scholars as well as others, point back to the book of Genesis and the brief history contained there concerning Onan and his  seed. His action in Genesis chapter 38 (included below) is the root of why masturbation is considered to be wrong or at least inappropriate by many. The term for this is Onanism.


O'NANISM, noun [from Onan, in Scripture.] The crime of self-pollution.

Let’s break this definition down. What does self-pollution mean? The fourth definition of pollution below fits well, meaning emissions of semen except in our case it would be voluntary rather than involuntary. 


POLLU'TION, noun [Latin pollutio.]

1. The act of polluting.

2. Defilement; uncleanness; impurity; the state of being polluted.

3. In the Jewish economy, legal or ceremonial uncleanness, which disqualified a person for sacred services or for common intercourse with the people, or rendered any thing unfit for sacred use.

4. In medicine, the involuntary emission of semen in sleep.

5. In a religious sense, guilt, the effect of sin; idolatry, etc.


In Onan’s day, to make sure the widow was properly cared for after the death of her husband. The husband’s eldest brother would marry the widow and provide her with a son(s) so that she might continue to prosper. In this case Onan shirked his responsibility to care for his brother’s wife by spilling his seed on the ground. This is the sin, not masturbation. That being the case, it’s my own opinion that couples should not engage in solitary masturbation as it reduces the spiritual, emotional and sensual drive required to maintain and further develop a healthy loving sexual relationship. 


Gen 38:7 And Er, Judah's firstborn, was wicked in the sight of the LORD; and the LORD slew him.

8 And Judah said unto Onan, Go in unto thy brother's wife, and marry her, and raise up seed to thy brother.

9 And Onan knew that the seed should not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in unto his brother's wife, that he spilled it on the ground, lest that he should give seed to his 


10 And the thing which he did displeased the LORD: wherefore he slew him also.

5 days ago. Mon 13 Aug 2018 04:31:28 PM IDT

Twenty plus years late to the party, but this scene from Army of Darkness is pretty funny. 



shotgun sports are a lot of fun

5 days ago. Mon 13 Aug 2018 03:04:08 PM IDT

Beauty and Desire 


What makes a woman beautiful and desirable? Is it the perfect symmetry of her facial features? Or is it the complexion of her skin and it’s softness? Maybe a woman’s beauty is derived from the color and silky texture of her long hair. What about her wonderful body with all it’s graceful and sensual curves that suggest health, sensuality and fertility. Is this what the world suggest to us? Yes it is, the female form is beautiful in all it’s variations yet shallow in nature. Fortunately it’s not the truth.


A woman’s true beauty is found in her soul, her spirit. It improves and becomes richer with maturity. The physical beauty of youth eventually leaves us all behind does it not? What’s left is what really counted all along, it is the inner beauty of a woman’s soul and loving spirit. As king Lemuel writes in Proverbs 31.


Prov 31:10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.


This is true feminine beauty.