3 months ago. Fri 14 Dec 2018 02:04:36 AM IST
We watch romantic movies that show us the importance of love and the sense of it and imagine what love may do to us and how it may change our view of life..
We read stories and novels about love and its power, how we feel beautiful and feel the taste of happiness in our heart..
The more we read and watch, the more we feel the aspiration to experience it and the more we feel the challenge to reach the greatest of love with someone..
How many of you (single or in a relationship) have thought of that? How many of you felt hopeless and said "I will not find such love", "I don’t feel like that with my partner" or thought "I need that but It's just a movie and it's just an unrealistic story, not a real one" or even start to think "I probably don’t deserve a love like that".
I am pretty sure that there are many of you thought of that and closed the doors on yourselves and built unbreakable walls, surrendered to the idea that you will not find that happiness and will not experience the great perfect love that you desire..
Do not make that mistake, do not torment yourself by hiding and giving up, because you can find such love but you should start loving yourself first, to love all your flaws, mistakes and blunders, to accept yourself as it is and to teach yourself that there is NO PERFECTION in anything in this life, everyone has faults.
"Value yourself! Accept yourself! Grow and learn from challenges and mistakes, but don’t beat yourself up over them. Be kind to yourself! Love yourself!" Elana Mizrahi.
Do not give up, learn and accept to love everything with its imperfection.. Perfection does not exist and never will exist.
"If you have it in your head that somewhere out there a perfect relationship is possible, you won't be able to accept the imperfection of who is standing before you." Sheryl Paul.
Everything may be perfect, beautiful and wonderful in a person "like in movies and books" but that does not mean that you are compatible with them.. Does not mean that they complete you, does not mean that they are the ones who will fill your empty heart.. Only YOU can do that!
So it is NOT about being in a perfect relationship.
Therefore, stop thinking, questioning, rejecting and killing every hope to find the greatest love of your life..
Love yourself and you will find THAT love.. You have to believe that without enough self-love, you are not capable of actually loving others or accepting what they are giving you. When you feel that you are insignificant and full of self-hatred, you will be less satisfied and less positive about your relationship.
"Getting out of the idea that your love is supposed to be perfect is the first step in creating the kind of love you want in this world. Love isn't perfect." Megan Mann.
When you love yourself and accept everything about yourself, you will not need the additional love that someone else gives you, you will choose the other person because YOU want to be with them, because life is better when you are together. When you love yourself, you will appreciate the love of others but you will NOT need it to reach happiness. When you really love yourself, you will not wish for things to be different when you watch a romantic movie or read a love story book, because it is already there but you choose not to see it!
Love yourself and STOP comparing your love life with what you watch in movies or read in books.. Just look at your existing relationship and understand that every little thing about it, is the PERFECT IMPERFECTION.. And it is your greatest LOVE.