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Taking the responsibility of our mistakes as a crucial step to becoming a better sub

Sometimes we make mistakes and we think that the best thing to do is to lie or hide it from our Dom.
1 month ago. Sun 16 Sep 2018 02:00:47 PM IDT

"I have known about BDSM for a while now and I find it intriguing. Despite the fact that I desired to explore my wildest fantasies, I have always feared the extremes. This has always made me to stick to vannilla sex while secretly desiring BDSM."

 

This blog post is dedicated to the new submissives who have seen and researched more about BDSM but they have always feared to explore it. 

 

Tips on starting your exploration process as a submissive.

 

It is always hard to know what you like unless you start the exploration process. If one is in a vanilla relationship, they may not know the joys and pleasures that come with kink. The following are the steps in the exploration of your body as a new submissive;

 

1. Overcoming your fear.

Fear will always prevent us from accomplishing our desires. This fear should be mastered if one has to venture into new things. I am not saying that a person has to try out everything that comes with BDSM but one should also not fear everything in BDSM. Find your hard limits and soft limits.

 

 2. Trust.

One should look for a Dom who he or she could trust. Find a Dom who cares for you so that you will not get permanently hurt in the process of fun. Ensure that he knows your limits and you have a safe word to be more safe. Your Dom will guide you in the exploration of your soft limits during training. Your hard limits should not be explored.

 

3. In case he or she oversteps your limits;

Use your safe word.

 

4. Finally, the most important thing is to enjoy your bondage sex and to do whatever your dominants tell you to.

 

Those are the processes I know of, if you have more. Please add in the comment section below. 

1 month ago. Sat 15 Sep 2018 05:05:46 AM IDT

We are all faced with certain challenges in our lives, for instance, the death of a loved one. It is in such cases that you get all confused and you don't even know what to do. You first deny completely what has happened until you see him in the mortury. Despite the fact that you have seen the evidence, you still want to argue with the facts. These are the times when you really don't feel like hearing sorrys from people because they are supporting the fact that he is gone. You go and look for distractions but it does not change the fact that he is gone. You feel all alone and you even forget the basics. For real, this is when friends come in handy and they have to remind what you are the basics. Trust me, this are the days that despite the fact that you are very good at giving advice, your advice does not comfort you anymore.

 

Death is a bitch. It really knows how to fuck people up. DEATH IS A MOTHER FUCKING BITCH. I HATE IT!!!

1 month ago. Fri 14 Sep 2018 04:42:33 PM IDT

As much as we always like to be loyal and pleasing to our Doms, sometimes we do things that we know very well would anger our masters. This usually happens because of our human nature. And to make myself more clearer, I am not talking about the mistakes we commit willingly. I am talking about those things we do and we never meant to do them. Yes, he/she expects us to be loyal to him or her but lying just because you are afraid of making him or her sad, is the worst mistake that could ever be committed. It is also not right to keep your mistakes hidden from your Dom. Everything that is hidden would eventually come out in the light. It is mandatory to be truthful, so as to establish a long term relationship of trust with our Dom. We should always learn how to come clean with him/her and accept the punishment that would come with it gratefully. They know that we are not perfect and trying to be truthful to them despite our imperfection is what sets the differences between a good and a bad sub.