"I have known about BDSM for a while now and I find it intriguing. Despite the fact that I desired to explore my wildest fantasies, I have always feared the extremes. This has always made me to stick to vannilla sex while secretly desiring BDSM."
This blog post is dedicated to the new submissives who have seen and researched more about BDSM but they have always feared to explore it.
Tips on starting your exploration process as a submissive.
It is always hard to know what you like unless you start the exploration process. If one is in a vanilla relationship, they may not know the joys and pleasures that come with kink. The following are the steps in the exploration of your body as a new submissive;
1. Overcoming your fear.
Fear will always prevent us from accomplishing our desires. This fear should be mastered if one has to venture into new things. I am not saying that a person has to try out everything that comes with BDSM but one should also not fear everything in BDSM. Find your hard limits and soft limits.
One should look for a Dom who he or she could trust. Find a Dom who cares for you so that you will not get permanently hurt in the process of fun. Ensure that he knows your limits and you have a safe word to be more safe. Your Dom will guide you in the exploration of your soft limits during training. Your hard limits should not be explored.
3. In case he or she oversteps your limits;
Use your safe word.
4. Finally, the most important thing is to enjoy your bondage sex and to do whatever your dominants tell you to.
Those are the processes I know of, if you have more. Please add in the comment section below.