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The Beauty in Chaos

Here is my place to express thoughts, musings, and anything else that comes from my noggin. ~SSK
9 hours ago. Sun 24 Mar 2019 05:26:50 AM IST

Dear Cage,


It has been a wild ride. I have learned so much about myself and about the world around me since starting this journey and this account. I have met some wonderful people, and I have met some scumbags too. Recently, there have been a number of people that I look up to or follow, even people that I am close friends with that have decided to leave the cage.

This has resulted in me doing my own reflection. I started my cage profile in the hopes to explore my submissive side. Not only did I explore, I found the greatest gift of all. Love. 

MikeS and I met quite awhile ago and since that first interaction, he has held my heart. I love this man so thoroughly that there are not words. Yes, I walked away for a little while to explore because I thought that was what I needed. But have you ever heard that phrase "if you love something to let it go and if it loves you back it'll return?" Well I came running back. Because at the end of the day, nobody understands me and my brain and heart like Daddy does. 

I wrote a blog, "Dear future Sir" and it was only recently that I realized that everything I wanted so badly to have was already patiently waiting in front of me, for me to come home. Nobody knows my heart and mind like he does. And I know now, without a shadow of a doubt that he is my one. 


So now with that understanding I look around and ask why am I here? I don't blog much anymore. I get in the chat periodically but have become disenchanted with the whole thing. I do believe it's time to move on. 


So, I will leave my profile up until the subscription runs out. I will get on once in a while to see how things are going and check my inbox. If you want to stay in touch with me, please shoot me a message so that we can connect outside of here. 


Much love to you all. 



2 days ago. Fri 22 Mar 2019 10:01:30 AM IST


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4 days ago. Tue 19 Mar 2019 04:08:38 PM IST

So this is a repost, but with the flood of new folks, worth resharing I think.


Dear new submissive, 

I am so proud of you for taking the first step to unlocking your true self! Welcome to the Cage. We are all a great community of people and I sincerely hope that you have a great time here. Know that you will meet people here that will bring you joy, some that will give you the heebie-jeebies and some that are just awesome. Just a few things to think about: 

Be true to yourself. You cannot be happy with anyone else if you aren't getting what you need. Note that I said need here, not want. You can want things all day long but your needs are what are most important here. 

We are all here for various reasons but at the base of them all, we are here because we need this. The community, the kink, the understanding of others like us. Keep sight of what you need. Always. 

You may meet someone who seems to speak to you on a deep level, and they may actually end up being your dominant, but take a moment and make sure you aren't just going through subfrenzy (if you don't know what frenzy is, research is your friend!). Frenzy can lead to damage to you and or your mind later. Don't jump into anything right out of the gate. 

No good Dom or Domme is going to demand your submission straight away. If they do, run! 

Your submission is YOUR gift to give and for your dominant to earn. You hold that power over yourself until your dominant has earned and proven to you that they are worthy of your trust and submission. This is the power exchange. 

Kneel for yourself. What does that even mean SSK? Do things for the betterment of YOU. Meditation, reading, taking a long bath, whatever the case may be... You have to be able to submit to your own needs before submitting to another. 

Never be afraid to ask/get what you want and need. You may feel like a bad person because a situation does not work out for various reasons including lack of attraction. Don't. You know what you need and things you require to feel safe. 


The most important thing is ssc. Safe, sane, consensual! 


I know there's more to it than this, but these are the things I wish everyone to know off the top of my head. 



5 days ago. Tue 19 Mar 2019 11:12:06 AM IST

*sighs and shakes her head for the millionth time* 


Okay, I was really hoping I wouldn't be forced to do this, but it would seem I am. So here goes...


I am a person, I am not a sideshow attraction for you to stop and gawk at. I wrote words on my profile politely asking for folks to respect the privacy of myself and my Dominants and yet like most things, they are being ignored. So let me be a little more clear here and perhaps we can come to a mutual and agreeable understanding.


- You have two Doms?


- How does that work?

Great, also none of your business.

- Who is A?

Well right now, unless you already know, A finds this amusing and will remain a secret. 

-How do you find the time?

it's really not that hard. How does a Dom with multiple subs find the time...?

-Are you happy?

Not that it is your concern, but yes. Deliriously.


Okay bottom line here? I need the messages to stop. Getting curious friends who know me who know what led to this is one thing because they know the love I carry for my Sirs. But for those of you who of which I do not even KNOW. Please leave me alone. I do not know you. You do not know me. There is literally nothing that gives you the right to message me privately and press your face against the theoretical glass. I have not done anything like that to you, and would ask for that same respect and courtesy. Is this odd, a sub with two Doms? Perhaps. But then again to the vanilla world so is a lot of what goes down here. I'm just sayin.... Let's get a little perspective here people? 

Not all who have reached out wanting to know more have been disrespectful and while I appreciate their decorum, I still am left feeling like a freak. I have done my best to support a lot of people in this community, have been a sounding board and sympathetic ear to many. 

Really, all that I am asking here is to get some of that love and support right back. 


Just something to consider.




6 days ago. Mon 18 Mar 2019 05:08:31 AM IST

It's funny how just what you need can be right in front of you and you don't see it. True to ssk fashion, it took having a meltdown and some hurt to realize I already had everything I could ever need. 

So the short of it? I'm happy. We're happy. Oh, and I've hung up my running shoes for good...





1 week ago. Wed 13 Mar 2019 04:30:33 AM IST

Dear Future Sir,


I hope this finds you well. Know that your submissive is patiently waiting for you and learning to better herself in the meantime. I am saucy and sometimes sassy, but always obedient. Expressive doesn't begin to cover me, and I will lay my mind bare for you to leisurely explore. Sir, it has been a wild ride and I know that when we find one another that the stories we will have to share will be interesting to say the least. I have learned so much and have a world out there yet to learn. You don't know it yet, but i love fiercely, and once I let you in... I will surrender all of me to you. My mind, body, heart, and soul, because you deserve that and more.

I have had a lot of people to help shape me into the submissive I am now. You know about my sub Mama, she's one of the ones that has been keeping me safe while I waited for you and is priceless to me. Then there's my Dom friend, and he has been an amazing advisor and has become a close confidant. Who knew it would all start with a compliment on a corset ;) Then there's my first Dom who loved me so dearly that he let me go when he knew it was time and loves me still. I will ALWAYS hold him close to my heart, but you understand that. I have met so many people here in this Cage that have had roles in my journey in various sizes. From the one who was so worried about my welfare around others, the ones who hurt and ghosted me, to the ones who reach out with words of wisdom when I need to hear it most. You should be happy Sir, because I surrounded myself with wonderful people and I can't wait for you to meet them!

Sir, what I mean to tell you here is that while I am still naive in so many ways, I come to you with an open heart and a willing mind. For you, I will hang up my running shoes and bring out the stillettos (even if I bust my ass in them). Until you come to me or I manage to find you, I will continue to learn and explore and grow so that when you do come, I will be good for you. I don't romanticize any of this. I know that its all a give and take, ebb and flow. But I am willing to grow with you, fight for us and what we will build together. Things won't always be hearts and flowers. Some days I will piss you off to no end because I am southern and stubborn and my mind is a complete asshole sometimes. And some days you will make me so frustrated I want to scream and holler. But we will talk it out. Because that's what you do when you get in deep with someone Sir. You fight for them, even if in the moment you're fighting with them. Some things are worth it, and we are worth it. You are worth it. I am worth it.

So, my future Sir, wherever you may be, know that your girl has a good head on her shoulders and a big heart. No matter how many times I falter, I will get back up and find my way back. All I ask, is that you not give up on me.....because Sir, I will never give up on you.



Your SSK <3

1 week ago. Mon 11 Mar 2019 03:00:38 AM IST

So many things have happened. SO many conversations have taken place and so many stories I have been told.

This is a tell-all of a lost submissive.


I have this need. No, not a need for speed (maybe a little hehe), but for attention. Yes, I am an attention whore!

In my every day life, I am mostly invisible. Here, I am SSK. I am a strong alpha sub who blogs and encourages and tries her best to be kind to everyone she meets. I am so free to explore myself and my desires. I have come so far as a woman and as a sub from when I first joined this crazy Cage.

I have backed myself into a corner with my newfound freedom. My favorite question right now is "What do you need?"




I wish I knew exactly what I need! All I know is that I need a firm but gentle hand to keep me on a short leash. I wanna know what it really feels like to surrender control to my Dom. I want to be in so deep that I do not even WANT to seek the attention of others. I am beginning to think that this is not in the cards for me. I want it all. I have this terrible habit of letting myself get caught up in others too quickly and then after I panic. Only now do I understand it to be my big ol heart dragging me into trouble.



This is just me. Raw, uncut, pure SSK coming at you live and in the flesh. I am not giving up. I'm too damn stubborn for that. But I do understand what I need so much better right now. I am at a crossroads. Left or right? Up or down? 


"If you're ready, heart is open....I'll be waiting, come and find me..."



2 weeks ago. Thu 07 Mar 2019 03:17:52 PM IST

I want to tremble at the mere look in your eyes and and feel myself melt from the intensity of your gaze raking across my bare skin. 

I want to feel my inner muscles constrict in preparation for you when you say "kneel" just loud enough I could have dreamed it.. 

I want to sigh in ecstasy as your fingers dance lightly over my skin, teasing my already taut nipples to a fevered point. 

I want to gasp as your hand lands on my ass with a loud crack that sends wildfire up my spine and a dull ache between my thighs.

I want to slip effortlessly into subspace for you as you whispers seductively in my ear, "you're Mine little girl."


Mmmmm just having a little fun this morning. Feeling particularly naughty today. 


2 weeks ago. Wed 06 Mar 2019 05:41:56 PM IST

You capture my mind and you have me under your control. 

You capture my heart and you have my undying love and loyalty.

You capture my soul and you have all of me happily owned.


I have had a few epiphanies lately and one of them has led to the start of a beautiful relationship.....and today, I glow for him. More importantly I am glowing for me too. Today I look into the mirror and see the beauty there. Today I see me. 

Thank you A. ❤️



2 weeks ago. Tue 05 Mar 2019 02:30:35 PM IST

Good morning you lovely kinky people! 

Today is going to be a great day. 

So ladies and gentlemen and others of the cage... Remember that you are awesome, you are smart, you are worth it, and you're beautiful baby! 

Now go out there make today your bitch!