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Finding Her

This'll be my journey of self-discovery. "Finding Her" is finding me. I am Her; She is me. Hopefully I'll find her...eventually. I'll find her in thoughts and musings, dreams and experiences, online and in real life. I figured we'd find her together.
1 week ago. Sun 13 Jan 2019 08:47:32 PM IST

Just a quick rant. 


I absolutely, 100%, loathe the word “normal.” 

Saying that something is “normal” generally implies that anything that doesn’t conform or follow that guideline is “abnormal” or “weird”. 

Just because I don’t share the same tastes as someone, doesn’t make them any less “normal” or me “weird”.

If you like pineapples on your pizza, and I don’t (which I really don’t because it’s disgusting), it doesn’t mean I’m not “normal”. It just means that I don’t like pineapples on my pizza. 


So what? Who cares?


Okay, I’m done. Sorry for the rant guys. 



1 week ago. Sat 12 Jan 2019 07:08:50 AM IST

Trust is delicate. It’s a sensual thing. It’s very fragile. It’s precious. Yet, so very heavy. It’s important. It’s vital. It’s crucial. It’s valuable. It’s worth it’s weight in gold. 

It’s earned, not just given.

Proceed with Caution. 



3 weeks ago. Tue 01 Jan 2019 12:31:47 AM IST

I need to get this out.


I am submissive. I've longed for submission before I knew what submission was. I yearn to serve.

My ultimate fantasy is to kneel before Him, with him carressing my face with a look of pure, feral, unadulterated want and affection as he says to me, "Good girl." That one phrase will penetrate my core and cover me like the warmest blanket on the coldest night.

I need submission just like I need water and oxygen to survive. I ache for a guiding hand, a stern look, a gentle command. I desire order, routine, discipline, structure. I need Him. I've dreamt of his voice sailing across my skin like velvet. I've dreamt of his palm striking my flesh and turning it a beautiful shade of ruby like my birthstone. I crave Him, his Dominance.

My need sprints through my veins... and it's giving no signs of slowing down any time soon.




3 weeks ago. Mon 31 Dec 2018 11:05:49 PM IST

Take the time to celebrate you making it another 365 days here on Earth. You’ve made it! Let’s celebrate all your accomplishments and even your downfalls because in the end, you’ve lived and learned. 


I hope everyone has a very happy New Years! Stay Safe and Stay Kinky ✨

3 weeks ago. Sun 30 Dec 2018 06:59:36 AM IST

[I always said "I'll start Monday" or "I'll start next week". I needed to get a jump on it so I figured,"Why not now? You aren't doing anything. Why wait until New Years??? It's now or never." Sooooo, here I am.]

What better way to start than giving some background on where I come from?


I come from a place where trust doesn’t come easy.

I come from a place where I never truly fit in with the norms surrounding me.

I come from a place where I’ve tried conforming to strictly vanilla relationships.

I come from a place where, in the past, I’ve tried to introduce “not so vanilla” concepts to vanilla people and ended up alone and hurt.

I come from a place where the things I like and love are judged heavily.

I come from a place where I desperately want to find out what I am.

I come from a place where I want to see if I truly am alone.

I come from a place of loneliness (and maybe desperation).

I come from a place where I seek acceptance...


I come from a place where one Google search lead me here, to TheCage.

I come from a place where I found a community of people who like things I like, and seek things I seek.

I come from a place where I hope to create friends and memories I'll never forget. 

I come from a place where I gathered up the courage to post my first blog post.

I come from a place where I'm hoping to finally find HER.