How do I show respect to someone who doesn't demand it?
I was having dinner with Silver, Tammy, and the Professor (from a local group) on Friday. I helped make dinner and we spent the evening laughing and having a great time… The three of us. Tammy was nothing but negativity and insults toward Silver, treating him as though he couldn't do anything right. I asked how I am supposed to know whether or not she is joking. "No one ever does" was the response I got.
Then, Saturday was our playdate. Her 'rule' is that she has to be there during play. I had waited two and a half weeks for this, so I was fine with that. I was very excited. I had an amazing experience. We went upstairs so I could lay down with Silver, and she came in the room and started talking. I don't remember what was said, but that was my time. Not hers. Leave us alone. Then, after my nap, I was sitting at the table with Silver and she made the comment about him taking so long, she almost came down to help. Excuse me? I do not need your help! You're the reason I'm here… Because you're inadequate. (I am mad at this point.) I am very good at what I do. I do not need some EX WIFE 'helping' me. I know Silver wants us to be friends, but I will not put up with someone disrespecting a man I care so deeply for in front of not only me, but his peer as well. That is NOT okay with me! She's so negative. I will not have that in my life, whether it makes him happy or not. I have my own well-being to think about. He is such a great man, but she is such a buzz kill. Ruined everything! I had such a great experience, and all I can think about is her.
He says they are life partners. To me, that means she is not going anywhere. And now, I am stuck.