1 week ago. Wed 22 Jan 2020 10:25:08 AM IST
I have figured out that because so much happened so fast when I first started blogging, I am now on cruise control. The man I am with is making me happy and is doing all the right things. There are no light bulb moments because everything is perfect, no turmoil to learn from. He is giving me the structure I so desperately desire as well as the relationship dynamic I need. HE is chasing ME, which is a first. (Not that I'm running.) He is going out of his way to come and see me. He even came down for a few hours, went home, and then came back the next night! That's 8 hours in the car, for 7 hours of being with me! That is something I would have done, and now that I think about it, it sounds ridiculous and illogical. But I guess when feelings are strong enough, you do crazy things. We actually made it "Facebook official", which was good, but kind of hard for me to wrap my head around as he lost his wife last year. You can't be married AND have a girlfriend at the same time, so he had to take his wife off. That kind of upset me. I didn't want him to do that. (That light bulb came on after the fact.) I'm not looking to take her place. Ever. And I can only imagine how hard it is for him. I know people grieve in different ways, so I should just let it be. They were polyamorous in the lifestyle, but it’s still kind of hard to wrap my head around.
As far as the contract goes, it's still a work in progress. I enjoy working on it together in stages. He'll add something, I'll look it over, make possible adjustments (usually grammar related lol), or I'll add something and he'll make adjustments. It is absolutely amazing how much we have think alike. One of his Guidance Rules is Lower Expectations. He explains that we need to lower the expectations of ourselves and not expect us to be perfect, and to just enjoy the experience. How perfect is he!?!?
I know we have not been together long, and there are bound (hee) to be things we don't like about the other, but until that comes (hee), I am enjoying EVERY second of this. We both want to please the other, and that is how a relationship should be.
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