Random thoughts of a newbie

TheAnt​(dom male) - First make a solid list that shows what you NEED and aren't getting. Next make a list showing which each is giving you.
Share it with the corresponding Dom and see if a compromise is possible. Also and I know I sound like a broken record, but are you getting the right sort of Dom? I have discovered a lot of subs are really "littles" at heart and that is why the dynamic is failing or failed. You say you are seeking a Master in your profile, maybe one with Daddy Dom (or Mommy) tendencies could help out your needs that are missing. My Kitty needs a Daddy Dom as her main need but also wants Master/slave play as well. It's a good fit for us.
The list might help you. If not, well heck at least you have a roadmap to search for that Dom who can meet all your needs.
-DA

SirsSunrise​(sub female) - DaddyAnt.. I appreciate your perspective. I’m not 100% sure what I need. I know I have slave tendencies but I think there is some little in me as well. That could lead back to why when I don’t get consistent communication and rules and tasks I feel rebellious and resentful and non-submissive. I have a pretty extreme masochistic side, but I’m also very soft hearted and willing to please. Put me on two extremes of the spectrum. I have not yet found anyone who fills both sides

TheAnt​(dom male) - Find yourself a Daddy Dom who can guide you. Why not try one? A little requires A LOT of time so look carefully for a Daddy(Mommy) that will give you that time.
I also saw something in your profile tha leads me to believe you may want a Care Giver instead of a Daddy Dom as they are like a Daddy Dom but without any sexual play.
-DA

venia​(sub female){notlooking} - I find it to be much more of a spectrum, and I suspect very few submissives are 100% little or 100% slave, etc. I tend to think Doms also lie on a spectrum as to what they need from their submissive. Finding the person who has a similar “mix” of needs can be challenging, but it can be done. If your current relationships can’t do that, please don’t settle for less than you deserve. Leave space to find the person that can. Good luck!

SirsSunrise​(sub female) - Thank you venia. You are absolutely right!!!

SirsSunrise​(sub female) - Thank you venia. You are absolutely right!!!

SirsSunrise​(sub female) - DA, I appreciate your insight. I’m still trying to figure out where I should be,who I should be looking for, and how I need to go about being happy. Do you think my need for consistency and rules and structure are bringing me back to being a little? I don’t disagree with you as there are times that I do have temper tantrum‘s when I don’t get my way but I always thought that was just more frustration.

TheAnt​(dom male) - Yes, I do think your needs point right at being a little.. ABSOLUTELY. But you express a need to be a slave too. So maybe change things up and find a Care Giver or Daddy Dom with Master tendacies.
You may strive to have your brat side put in her place with some heavy handed discipline which feeds your slave needs. Find yourself a Daddy Dom with heavy Brat tamer abilities.
And temper tantrums are NOT a slave trait but ARE a little trait. Oh, and by the way, there is no growing out of your little side.

SirsSunrise​(sub female) - I appreciate your perspective DA. Being part little will explain why I get frustrated so easily and lose my patience. It’s going to be a difficult process to find someone who can deal with all parts of me, slave/ Little/submissive.