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Push and pull

Dominance and submission is a constant push and pull between willing partners. One leads, the other follows. One commands, the other consents. The needs of each are different – to control or to be controlled. The power and trust, however, are equal even though each partner is on different ends of a spectrum.
1 week ago. September 17, 2022 at 1:58 PM

      While this can seem like a sad thought, kissing someone like you won’t see them again. To me is a deep passion we have when we feel we motor see some again. And if we kiss this way it doesn’t mean we won’t see one another again but live that passion daily. 

  Kissing is the most deeply intimate act we do as people. A great kiss is like dancing the tango with a sexy partner; it has moments of raw passion and other moments of soft sensuality. It is a sensual dance of lips, mouths and tongues that express deep emotions and cravings.


With time and maturity, I have discovered that amazing sex has a firm foundation in the imagination and that our brains are our largest sex organs. I now find that I crave a woman who can inspire my most animalistic passions within me through a long, slow, sensual kiss… A sensual passionate kiss says that this woman is highly confident and has no issues expressing her sexual desires. Only a sensual, passionate and uninhibited person can kiss in a way that shoots sparks in your brain and makes you crave her all day long. A kiss can be an extremely honest explosion of pure emotions. Even the most shy person can express how they truly feel for someone in a kiss. Everything else follows so easily once the honest emotions are expressed and the sparks start to

2 weeks ago. September 11, 2022 at 12:06 AM

For me,

        placing my hand on a woman’s throat is never about choking or breath play at all. It is about deep intimacy and incredible trust. I love to place my right hand on my sub’s throat firmly but gently. It is a very vulnerable and fragile place on her delicate body that which requires great trust and caring to ensure she is not injured in any way.

         She melts to my desires and to my control over her body instantly. I can literally feel her body melt and feel her switching into “sub mode” mentally. Clearly there is some common psychological response button on most submissive women that triggers that full-body submission response when a masculine hand is placed on her throat…

       The neck is a control point – a flimsy, fragile mechanism to support a heavy skull and large brain where major blood vessels and critical neural impulses travel to/from our bodies to our brains. Once we lose control of the neck, the battle is over…


3 weeks ago. September 3, 2022 at 10:22 AM

On a dark night,
Kindled in love with yearnings–oh, happy chance!–
I went forth without being observed,
My house being now at rest.

In darkness and secure,
By the secret ladder, disguised–oh, happy chance!–
In darkness and in concealment,
My house being now at rest.

In the delightful night,
In secret, when none saw me,
Nor I beheld aught,
Without light or guide, save that which burned in my

This light guided me
More surely than the light of noonday
To the place where she was awaiting me–
A place where none appeared.

Oh, night that guided me,
Oh, night more lovely than the dawn,
Oh, night that joined Beloved with lover,
Lover transformed in the Beloved!

Upon her flowery breast,
Kept wholly for himself alone,
There she stayed sleeping, and I caressed her.  
And the fanning of the cedars made a breeze.

The breeze blew from the turret
As I parted her locks;
With my gentle hand I held her neck
And caused all her senses to be suspended.

I remained, lost in oblivion;
My face I reclined on the Beloved.
All ceased and I abandoned myself,
Leaving my cares forgotten among the darkens of night 

1 month ago. August 24, 2022 at 7:28 PM

Some forms of sexuality involve playing with power, sensation, or fetish. This type of sexuality is often referred to as kink. Other terms for this kind of play include ‘BDSM’, ‘fetish’, ‘leather,’ ‘kinky sex’, ‘the scene’ or ‘the lifestyle’.
The term BDSM stands for ‘bondage’, ‘discipline’, ‘domination,’ ‘submission,’ ‘sadism’ and ‘masochism’. It is a broad term that includes many ways for people to use dominance and submission, bondage, pain and other activities for erotic arousal or personal growth.

While kink may involve sex play including oral, genital and anal sex, not all kink involves having sex. Kinky activity is often called ‘playing’, and a session of play is called a ‘scene’. People may experiment with, or act out, roles that are different than how they live their day-to-day lives. Kink play with a partner often involves two general roles:

One player takes a role guiding the activity, or giving sensation. This partner can be called a top or a Dominant.
The second player follows the direction given by their partner, or receives the sensation. This partner is usually called a bottom or submissive.
These roles are agreed upon by all people involved, and both the top and bottom are involved in setting limits on their activities.

There are also many ways that people can enjoy solo kink play, including dressing in fetish clothing, doing solo bondage, or playing with sensation.

Types of kink play
There are many different types of kink play, including fantasy and role play, fetish and giving or receiving sensation. During kink play, the body may produce chemicals that can lower a person’s sensitivity to pain. A person can also have feelings of euphoria or intense focus. Other people may enjoy the vulnerability they feel during play.

Either  it is kink or fetish what’s yours ?? We all have one or many …

1 month ago. August 22, 2022 at 9:16 PM

of take one's breath away
: to be extremely exciting, beautiful, or surprising

Breath control is the restriction of oxygen for the purpose of heightened sexual arousal and intensified orgasm. Methods of breath control include strangulation, suffocation, and smothering. This practice may be used during consensual sex or masturbation. It is particularly popular in the BDSM community where it is not uncommon for dominants to control their submissives' breathing.

Breath control is also known as erotic asphyxiation or, when it's used on oneself, auto-erotic asphyxiation.

Orgasms are said to be much more intense when the brain is deprived of oxygen, but this practice can also be dangerous and even deadly. Individuals and couples looking to experiment with breath play should be extremely cautious. Couples should use communication during the act and employ the use of safe words and gestures. Never use belts, collars, ropes, cords, hanging, or extreme pressure to cut off the oxygen supply. Auto-erotic asphyxiation is particularly dangerous.


why do I write about this you may ask ?? Well the breath of a person is a gift one can share through a kiss to the lips as it passes from one soul to the other. It’s a gift in that as it enters one’s body when inhaled from the other it becomes part of that person as it mixes in their body and when breathed out it fills the givers soul with the mixture of their bonds. So while breath play can arouse when shared with another two breaths can become one breath and a bond felt deeper… 

so play safe if you do and if you choose to melt two breaths into one then enjoy the depths it can bring you.

1 month ago. August 16, 2022 at 8:04 PM

The primary role of a Dominant is to ensure a submissive’s physical and emotional safety during a session. A submissive must feel safe enough to give over full control over her body and mind. A person who makes her fearful, nervous, threatened or pressured cannot achieve the primary requirement of a Dominant to inspire her sense of safety & trust.

That is not to say play with your Dom cannot be wild, rough and edgy because I also like my play a little rough and primal – hand on the throat, hair pulling, pinned up against a wall. But the difference is you have established a foundation of trust and established limits of your rough play based on that trust with your Dom as opposed to a complete stranger you are meeting for the very first time in person who makes you feel edgy.

If any man claiming to be a “Dom” makes any submissive feel nervous, fearful, pressured or on edge, I would advise that submissive to calmly excuse herself to use the washroom and then make a direct line to the nearest exit and never look back. The voice you are hearing inside your head is millions of years of evolutionary instincts trying to keep you safe. ALWAYS listen to that voice.

1 year ago. September 8, 2021 at 6:49 PM

All this time, I can't believe I couldn't see
Kept in the dark, but you were there in front of me
I've been sleeping a thousand years it seems
I've got to open my eyes to everything
Without a thought, without a voice, without a soul
Don't let me die here
There must be something wrong, bring me to life

music often opens up pain or takes it from it. It brings us to new levels of thought and can help heal us. What music do you hear when your at your darkest hours or at your most joyful moments in life ?? 

To me Amy Lee had a haunting voice it cuts through you like a knife bleeds the skin…. 

1 year ago. September 5, 2021 at 4:23 PM

    Hello darkness my old friend. I’ve come to talk to you again….

    Last night I spent many hours with a new and quite refreshing mind that joined me under the dark veil that darkness brings. We shared many thoughts on many subjects but one that kissed the hot passionate sparks of my brain was just this. How darkness covers us in its veil and we find ourselves taken away from the troubles of the real would into a masked world that allows our brain to be taken on a journey to where ever we allow it. 

    This morning as my thoughts return to this conversation as I glided across the waters of an open lake a song started to play in my head. I’m sure you have heard sound of silence, but take time to listen to its remake by Disturbed it is quit a rendition that will if you are lucky will take you into this veil of darkness where your mind can escape and be open to new electrifying places in your imitation 


  Under the darkness and the silence it brings lie the  demons each of us carry. The demons that awaken at night when our minds finally stop with the work of daylight. Demons I’m not sure I want to go away. Do I thrive on them? Do they drive me?? Are they where what’s inside me grows stronger each day? 

  It makes me wonder at times this dynamic of a D/s relationship do we feed off one another’s demons and this is what makes us whole? Are these the two sides of our coin that bring us together?  

  I think I’ll fall back under the veil again tonight snd allow the magic it brings to take me away on its journey. 

  Hello darkness my old friend …

1 year ago. September 4, 2021 at 11:10 AM


The misconceptions surrounding D/s are many:

Dominants take what they want.
Submissives do what they’re told.
Submissives should never ask for what they want. They’re not real submissives if they do.
Dominants shouldn’t ask for a submissive’s opinion or desire. It makes them appear weak.
Laughter, teasing, and silliness have no place in D/s. It’s serious business.

Lies! All lies! Dominants and submissives are first and foremost people in a relationship. Each person must find it fulfilling in order for it to be successful and last any length of time.

Dominants don’t “take” anything without mutual agreement, consent, and prior negotiation. They need a submissive’s permission first.

Submissives do as their told and asked after ground rules have been set and consent gained.

Both Dominants and submissives should also have the freedom to express their wants, needs, and desires whenever they want.

Laughter, teasing, and silliness need to have a place in every relationship or you’re doomed before you start.

D/s is a give and take power dynamic. Each side feeds off of the other. There will be those who beg to differ with these thoughts and that it their right. That being said being dominant is not something I can turn on and off it is who I should it be for any dominate or submissive. Be yourself first and for most and explore form there both roles and the dynamic that it’s allows us as people inside our own mind.

I’ve talked with submissives that say they have to be in a dominant role all day and just want to come home at night and let go and be myself. I feel this is a misconception as well. They are not out in a dominant role but are in a leadership role. They are still submissive by nature. Submissive can be a great leader and many are the best leaders it just feels like they are outside where they are comfortable. The dynamic of that situation makes their internal self feel out of balance. This is where a D/s relationship resets us when we are together like two sides of the same coin. When both are joined they feel complete.

enough ramblings for now…