This is a co-written post. Lord Crutiatus wrote part two and sent it to me this morning. I felt compelled to share his beautiful insight and add in my point of view from a different side (part 1).
Part 1: The submissive lady.
A woman that is a submissive is also a lady. She is gentle, loving, protective and intuitive. She has hopes, dreams, fears and worries. Just as any other woman, a submissive craves a deep love.
All too often women that need to do all sorts of naughty things feel as if they will lose the respect of their dominant and not be worthy of his love.
Unfortunately, this is sometimes true. You open up, and you are honest about all the things that cross your mind, maybe you even do them. Then you are treated badly, or discarded. It doesn’t have to be that way.
There are dominant men out there that will accept and love you no matter how depraved you can be. The ones that won’t commit to you in the way you deserve do not deserve what you’re willing to give.
Trusting another with the depths of your soul takes a strength that many do not poses. It should be revered, respected and kept safe. He should respect your limits, your intelligence, and your fragility. He should protect you from your demons, be there for you when you want to face them and help you be better.
Knowing you’ve found your One is easy. All you have to do is ask yourself; Does he make me better? This doesn’t mean can he “fix” you. Can he inspire you to fix yourself, and if you struggle will he be there to lend a hand, a kind word of encouragement or just a kiss on the forehead?
If the answer is no, or maybe or I hope so... I suggest reevaluating the relationship. It’s okay to try talking it out. Stand up for yourself, and vocalize your concerns. A true dominant will listen and adjust. It is a power exchange not a power drain.
Together, you should both be better. Together, you can face the world. Together, you can experience a love that can never be put into words. A gentleman and his lady. A Dominant and his submissive. That is how it should be.
Part 2: The gentleman dominant.
A gentleman loves women. He loves to be around them, he enjoys their beauty and he could spend hours talking to and interacting with them. The last thing he thinks of is treating women in a bad way. He despises men who gossip about their girlfriends or label women as sluts and whores.
A gentleman is a man who lives by the principle that every woman who is good to him deserves to be treated in a good way. He wants those women to feel good in his presence and to smile when they think off him.
A gentleman is on this world to bring joy to himself and to the women who accompany him on his path. He's not on this world to hide his true opinion, to say what others want to hear or to be what others want him to be.
A gentleman knows that the information a woman reveals through her words is nothing compared to the information she reveals through her feelings. His willingness to study women is what sets him apart from the men who will never be able to truly listen.
A gentleman knows how to treat women. He can always find the perfect balance between deep respect and sexual expression. He wants them to feel amazing in his presence. His goal is to make all the women in his life feel special.
A loving dominant is always a gentleman. He simply goes a step further. Placing his hand on the small of his submissive's back, he guides her through the doorway of her true nature. He places his fingers on the side of his submissive’s cheek to fan the flames of her desires as he looks deeply into her eyes before kissing her passionately.
A loving dominant does not rule arbitrarily. He does not posses limitless power or an unbridled supremacy. A loving dominant posses only the power that his submissive has granted him and she always has the authority to revoke this power at anytime and for any reason.
A loving dominant is a respectful, chivalrous, sensitive, honorable and well mannered man. It’s not about what he can get from a woman but about what he can give her.
One does not become a gentlemen by himself, your family painstakingly raises a gentleman. One does not become a dominant by himself, your relentless love of women makes you one. A loving dominant is the ultimate expression of women shaping men into perfection. Realizing that your power was given to you is what makes you able to receive the gift of submission and willing to treasure it for what it truly is.
In reality the nature of the gift is quite simple; submission is a woman sharing her own perfection with a man in which she sees nothing to change.