My truth beneath and beyond
2 weeks ago. Wed 08 Nov 2017 01:40:09 AM IST

If you’ve read my profile, you might have guessed I love Alice in Wonderland. I saw this today on Tumblr and it was so cheeky, I had to share.   Enjoy! 


2 weeks ago. Mon 06 Nov 2017 03:02:54 PM IST

3 weeks ago. Wed 01 Nov 2017 02:34:48 AM IST

4 weeks ago. Wed 25 Oct 2017 12:16:43 AM IDT

They say "that which doesn't kill you, makes you stronger" ... I don't agree.  Some things that didn't kill me, came so close that they continue to damage.  They didn't make me better.  Some things made me worse.  And can't that be ok too?  Can't some things just break you?  Why is it that the world wants you to believe that admitting defeat makes you weak?  I say, bleed. Bleed openly.  There can be pride in vulnerability. Honesty is maturity.  And really, it's the things that did "kill" me, that made me and continue to make me. 




4 weeks ago. Sun 22 Oct 2017 06:58:24 PM IDT

She had always felt too deeply, cared too much, given her heart to those unworthy. In a short while she was spent. Used up. Empty.

Then she found him, her wolf. He led her from the dark and taught her the truth of herself.

“What if I fall?” She said.
“Oh, Princess, but Ive taught you to fly…” He replied

And she let go, all the sorrow, all the pain, set free…

“Just breathe…” He said, “…I have far greater heights for you to soar in.”

1 month ago. Mon 09 Oct 2017 07:04:13 PM IDT

Thank you Alex, wherever you are. ๐Ÿ’•

So today I wrote a song for you

'cause a day can get so long
And I know its hard to make it through
When you say there's something wrong
So I'm trying to put it right
'cause I want to love you with my heart
All this trying has made me tight
And I don't know even where to start
Maybe that's a start
'cause you know its a simple game
That you play filling up your head with rain
And you know you are hiding from your pain
In the way, in the way you say your name
And I see you
Hiding your face in your hands
Flying so you won't land
You think no one understands
No one understands
So you hunch your shoulders and you shake your head
And your throat is aching but you swear
No one hurts you, nothing could be sad
Anyway you're not here enough to care
And you're so tired you don't sleep at night
As your heart is trying to mend
You keep it quiet but you think you might
Disappear before the end
And its strange that you cannot find
Any strength to even try
To find a voice to speak your mind
When you do, all you want to do is cry
Well maybe you should cry
And I see you hiding your face in your hands
Talking bout far-away lands
You think no one understands
Listen to my hands
And all of this life
Moves around you
For all that you claim
You're standing still
You are moving too
You are moving too
You are moving too
I will move with you

1 month ago. Tue 03 Oct 2017 03:53:47 AM IDT

When she transformed into a butterfly, the caterpillars spoke not of her beauty, but of her weirdness. They wanted her to change back into what she always had been. But she had wings.  ~D. Jackson



2 months ago. Sat 16 Sep 2017 10:51:49 PM IDT

For me, the goal of a D/s relationship has always been about building a long-term connection. After the end of a recent relationship, broken hearted and completely disillusioned, I started to recognize how exhausted I was. Historically, I'd tossed my energy at whatever my whims desired, and these characteristics; charming, successful, witty, charismatic, which usually depleted me of my otherwise healthy self-esteem.

As I mentally leafed through the pages of my relationship history, reflecting on the type that I had chosen, a frightening pattern of similarities emerged. They'd all pursued me with strong initial interest. They were deep and perplexing, enticing since I loved a challenge. Their confident manner was enough to break through my walls of busyness and fear, but their cocky attitudes eventually gave way to their deeply-rooted insecurities. They were engaging and magnetic, extremely smart and articulate. They also had an inability to care about someone for any length of time, or emotionally engage with a relationship in a healthy manner.

They would retreat often, pushing me away, before returning with more promises, sprinkling pretty words all over my tattered heart. I believed them, because there wasn't another option; their behavior was all I knew, and everything I was conditioned to cope with. There was never any consistency.

For years, I'd been under the false assumption that this was "my type." Must be. I always chose it. Only after taking inventory did I recognize that I had agency in that decision. Only I defined and chose my type, my type did not choose me, and I had the power to turn the tides. The one issue? I didn't really know what I was looking for. So after months of trying to reorient myself, I finally asked my friend for help. "What do you think would make me happy?" I asked him one night during a heart-to-heart about relationships, covering both his habits and mine.

His answer was short, to the point. "Super-outgoing and friendly is what I imagine for you, and that's huge, because I feel like you don't go for outgoing people," he said of my brooding M.O. "Mature. Confident. I don't see you with a smooth-talker, more of a legitimately good person."

I went to bed thinking about what he said, letting those seeds start to take root. Legitimately good. Of course I wanted Someone "good." I started to think about what I needed, not what I wanted or was instantly drawn toward, but the qualities that would make me feel safe and supported. I looked for times I felt that way, or saw authentically supportive gestures in real life. I observed the many men who passed through my life, from family members to guy friends, friends' boyfriends to work acquaintances.

I have noted every time my dad opens the car door for my mom. I appreciate the way my friend Mike boosts his girlfriend Jordan's sense of independence during an incredibly busy time in her life. I like the way my best friend's boyfriend makes an effort to engage in her life, with her friends and her interests. I like that one of my guy friends always silently does the right thing simply for the sake of doing it, not because he's going to get anything in return. His yes means yes; he follows through on his word. I warm whenever he notices I am selling myself short or subtly downplaying my accomplishments. It reminds me that I am the sum of my positives, not the essence of my last mistake.

I have taken mental snapshots of all these qualities. The things that would create a stable and positive relationship. These images have slowly started to replace all the old memories, the flashes of hurt, the anger so hot it had branded me a victim of my own unconscious decisions.

In the past, I hadn't chosen my type, but I'd allowed my type to choose me. Time and again. Everyone tells me that I need to find Someone that is confident, but it took me years to understand what that looks like. In reality, confidence is quiet. You have to open your eyes and acknowledge it. It does not beg for attention, and it won't settle for less than it deserves. It does not prey on anyone, or put another person down. It is always positive energy. And it's not easy to find, especially if you've spiraled into a cycle of inviting narcissists into your life who bleed you dry and forced you to keep putting your walls back up.

Walls exist for a reason. I've noted that with my past relationships, part of those walls never really crumbled. You have to ask yourself about someone who always comments on the walls and blockades you put up. Are you just the next challenge? What are their motives for breaking them down, and why are your walls still so high months after meeting?

Sometimes, it's instinctually unsafe to let your guard down. I think we are predisposed to place walls in front of the people who would hurt us. Putting yourself out there is always a gamble, but take note of those that literally scare all your senses. Sure, it's a rush. But your walls will never fall. These people will toss grenades from afar, haphazardly amassing damage as they force their way into your life, your heart. A healthy relationship won't follow

I'm looking for Someone who creates an atmosphere where it's OK to let my walls down. It'll be quiet, less emotional, and probably a whole lot more fulfilling in the long run.

I'm more than willing to wait for the Someone who quietly brings positive energy into my world. I may not know what He looks like, but this time, I'll know exactly how His presence in my life will feel: calm, peaceful, and safe.

2 months ago. Thu 14 Sep 2017 04:10:14 AM IDT

Do You like me

When I’m not pretty?
Eyes swollen and red,
mascara bleeding down my cheeks?
Do You like me
when my hair is a tangled mess
wet with my tears and sweat?
Do You like me 
without the smile that first
brought You here?

My voice weak and

sobbing whimpers…
Do You like me then?
Far from perfect?
My strength surrendered?
Giving all I have
To take all of Yours?
Because it’s then,

When I’m not pretty …
I know
I could never love another

2 months ago. Sun 10 Sep 2017 09:26:57 PM IDT

I don’t need You to lead me. I’m capable. I’m smart. I’m confident. I’m competent on my own.

So, no. I don’t need You to lead me.

But I want You to.

I want to forget all the things I’m capable of. All the things I need to be. All the expectations I try to live up to. I want to hand them over to You. Completely. I’ll crawl with the remnants of who the world thinks I am clenched in my teeth. I want to drop them at Your feet with my eyes lowered, waiting for Your attention. I want to know that You’ll hold them close as You command my very being to bend, to kneel. Let me forget. Let me trust that You’ll just let me…be. Yours. Nothing more. Let me know I’m safe. Let me know with every restraint that I’m free. Let me beg. Cry. Want. Need.

Then, when You release me back to the world, I’ll know I’m more than what they see. I’ll know I’m more than I ever thought possible.

I’ll know I’m Yours.