A dream or The dream?
A dream is really just fantasy we think about the kink or talk about it. Speaking the game is all good if that's all that's wanted but fantasy only lasts for so long. But fantasy isn't enough in the long term of things because of the nature it represents. I'll go a little morbid here with context, serial killers fantasize about killing a human being by quote a dream. So a dream only lasts for so long before we're drawn to action our own kinks play out in our heads and its good its perfect. They always are because a dream has no faults because its my, your, our dreams our partners are Aphrodite herself or Adonis himself. The reality of a dream can sustain a lot a hell of a lot of people for years forever even.
But!!!!!
The dream is action our partners aren't perfect they don't work out the same as in our heads. Theirs faults we see all of them each and every single one of them. We try not to notice but its true we judge their performance more intensely than they deserve. Once you've got or had the dream you look for ways to improve upon it we can help that behavior pattern it human nature the drive to make something better. That sometimes fucks things up believe me I know that sayings true you don't know what you had until its gone. I had the idea setting and I went outside of a voical agreement which screwed the whole thing newbies write out a contract it'll save the stress. It took time for me to come to terms with my mistakes but I evaluated them learnt from them and made myself into a better person. I dealt with my issues and now am ready to have the dream again. This is the down fall of the matter I can't go back to a dream because I've had it already its not enough. The lucky ones might be able to go backwards to just having a dream.
Knowledge is key for this world if we as a group don't acknowledge where we're at personally then we're just messing around with peoples minds and hearts. Is it a dream the fantasy or the dream the reality we're after. On this site we've dealt with fakes, frauds, thieves and deceivers that have gotten us to play into their hands for whatever twisted reason known only to them. We've told them our dreams and they've laughed at it danced around giddily. This sites management has taken notice and weeded a lot of the rot out.
We can hopefully get what we're here for without them play out a dream unleashing our fantasies or gain the partners to play the dream with. Its choice be clear as to which dream you want.
And play safe.
J