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Reflections in the dark mirror

Just my musings on 5 decades of the lifestyle
I am here when you are in need
I am here when your mind is freed
I am here if you want to walk
I am here if you want to talk
I cannot write more verse today
My mind like yours is far too frayed
All I can say to you is
I am here

Reginald Miles
6 months ago. March 5, 2023 at 5:41 AM

So Friday night’s event was billed as a celebration of a certain Gentlemans, 80 trips around the Sun, well, he certainly celebrated his birthday in style ! People came from far and wide, a technicolour whirlpool of costumes and various states of undress! 

Many kinksters strutting their stuff, every age, size and shape gender, you could think of all there enjoying being free to celebrate their lifestyle choices ! 

The seating arranged around the play area allowed, good visibility of all the action, the impact play was a joy to watch, flicking, whips, thuddy paddles, stinging crops, and many tailed floggers! Some subs dancing to the tune. Others stood stoically throughout the impact play.
Others were demonstrating their skills with rope play intricate patterns drawn on their body with rope, pulling them into positions that were a joy to watch! 

Then there was a vacuum bed, a latex envelope that many rested the bodies in, as the air was sucked out, breathing and communication was only possible through the small mouth tube, but it was amazing watching the latex draw tight around the body so a huge thank you to all participants! 

So all in all a wonderful night out amongst people that understand this lifestyle totally, enjoying the freedom it brings, allowing them to be themselves.


6 months ago. February 24, 2023 at 8:32 AM

First full on kink night out for decades! 

Donimation was a great event to kick off my new life in style ! 

Great venue, fun folk, amazing outfits !, loved the play area! 

So good to be out and around so many like minded folks! 

Lots more to come 😈😈

7 months ago. February 20, 2023 at 1:26 AM

After a very intense and physically demanding few weeks, pulling everything together to move into my new home, I’m actually in ! 

Finally free, 

Free to be me

Free to be how I want to be


free to travel and enjoy what life has to offer! 

All of which is true, but it’s way more intrinsic than that ! It’s like new life, pouring into my soul, space to stretch, and I can tell you, it feels really good after so many years of repression! 

None of us know how much time we have on this planet, we deserve the opportunity to ensure that time is spent in the best possible way, I have no idea what this next chapter holds, but I certainly can’t wait to find out.


My friends across the kink community have known about my own unhappiness for years, they have all said get out and make a new life whilst you still can, so here’s cheers to whatever life may bring  ! 



7 months ago. February 13, 2023 at 7:12 AM

Four more sleeps 🛌 and I move into my new home 🏡
Im also moving into my new life !  
What new opportunities are waiting to present themselves? 
Could 2023 be the year I get to be me 100% ! 

Those that know me know it’s been a difficult time just recently, Leaving everything behind isn’t an easy choice! But it was time, no regrets well maybe one, why didn’t I do this before ? 

My door is always open, I’ll put the kettle on and we can sit and chat ! 

Que Sera Sera 


7 months ago. January 26, 2023 at 6:40 AM

This is now a time for renewal!
A time to stop breathe and take an assessment of future direction! I’m still breathing in the wonderful air of freedom!

Those of you that actually know me, will know my marital life was toxic ! She was a controlling narcissist!

Well that’s no more, we are officially separated as of last Monday, there will be no reconciliation, it’s been over for years but the book is now closed !

No I’m not heading into Dom frenzy that’s not my style!

But I will be more visible at events etc. so if you want to say hi please do so, but remember I’m pretty deaf so tap me on the shoulder, and make sure I can see your lips lol that way you won’t think I’m ignoring you !!

At this moment I’m staying relatively close to Lincoln, again the ones that know me will know why !

Finding somewhere to live has been a challenge lol Lincoln is bursting with students so accommodation is at a premium!

I may have a room in Lincoln itself in the future but certain circumstances have meant it won’t be ready for a while so I’m moving to the countryside for a month, which will let me take stock and figure stuff out !

For my friends I thank you for your support, without you I wouldn’t have got this far !

So hello world 👋👋👋 it’s nice to meet you
Love, Peace and kink

Stew 💙


8 months ago. January 22, 2023 at 8:55 AM

8 months ago. January 21, 2023 at 9:00 AM

All I want to do is delight -
Throw the mask off,
Not care and not worry,
Not explain what I mean nor
Define what I do.
Just be whatever I feel like being.
Just relish in the energy of this moment.
I want to be so alive that
I feel like the moon,
Throwing tides just for fun,
Creating because it’s what I’m
Here to do.
I want to love the color orange,
Just because it craves delight too.
I want to cry because
I’m so in love with the miracle of
Being alive.
I don’t want to feel like I’m
I want to try and feel like I’m


From Orange Energy by Jennifer Healey

8 months ago. January 11, 2023 at 7:35 AM

Just a bit of fun, to brighten a dreary day, what can you come up with ? 

A serving of slaves 

A kneeling of subs

A nursery of littles

A school of Doms 

I am sure you can do better ! 

8 months ago. January 6, 2023 at 10:29 PM

Once upon a time there was a princess.  

Then there wasn’t ! 


8 months ago. January 1, 2023 at 7:26 AM

Whatever this year brings has to be better than the last one ! 

I hope we all recognise our desires and are brave enough to go for them ! 

Procrastination is just avoiding dealing with the things that matter ! 

Love, light and peace of mind to all 

Stew 💙