So, it’s important in any BDSM dynamic to read the air. Especially if you are going to be a dom.
Any change in consistency, communication, mannerisms, and even something as strange as sleep habits; ask questions.
At times, when situations are platonic and or mutually exclusive of a deeper relationship (example : boyfriend/girlfriend husband/wife) then you need to check up on the person to see if they have caught what others call “feels.” It’s important to note: to feel is to be human, and as such it is almost impossible to be a little robot submissive or a Big Mech Daddy without feeling something for your play partner/ friend.
Its important that those feelings be discussed, openly, cause if they are not then you are failing on two counts: communication and honesty. And if those things aren’t in a Bdsm dynamic you lose the biggest thing of them all , trust.
Both partners should do their best to keep an open mind, but a cautious heart. It is together that the dynamic functions, without one the other is just shouting commands into the open air, while the other is sitting there patiently for instructions that will never come.
Just remember: if you are causing them to hurt (outside of their desired kink...) you are doing them a deeper injustice than if you were to drop them.
Good morning, and if I don’t see you the rest of the day : good afternoon, good evening, and good night!
