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6 years ago. November 13, 2017 at 6:03 PM

I've been asked about this so I'll explain it.

A Stable is the term for us who are into the bdsm kinky lifestyle. Some cultures would say consortium or harem. But for us it's a stable and its mutual and equally agreed. 

Stable as in horse terms. 

The Dom is the steed or stud as it were it can be applied to a master or mistress it does not matter. 

The Subs are the mares I know this sounds derogatory but I've not heard a better way to describe it yet. 

The Stable is the home of the Dom he or she or other I hope I'm not offending there  if my term is wrong please feel free to contact me and correct me.

A Stable is in both parts a living arrangement and a stable environment for Dom and Subs to explore. It genuinely only applies to a Dom who needs various types of Subs. A Sub to control a Sub to be rough with a Sub to torture you get my meaning. 

Agreements need to be written out before the relationship starts assessing a Sub on the Doms point of view is hard because jealousy can creep in and spoil it. 

So my advice is to write up a list of what you the Dom wants and your needs. You can also add as you go along but set out a day when you take everyone out of play getting feedback helps progress. Anyway write a contract you sign first as Dom then get the Sub to sign do individual contracts for each of the Subs. That way you know what their going to agree on and what their not going to. 

Make what you want clear to them sometimes people misread what their signing up to because they feel it's easier to sign and get to the good stuff. 

Vet the person who your in contact with as they may have mental health problems so if possible talk with someone they know personally you don't have to disclose what your relationship is going to be like. This will help you to be informed as to their suitability remember its you who is the Dom not them and it's your stable.

I also find that if you meet for at least two times before you engage in sex you get to have a feel for the person spending the day with them works. Someone may be able to hide their true self for an hour or two but they can't hide for the whole day. That is on a psychological stand point once someone is relaxed they become their selves and it is all on show.

Another piece of advice do not let them act as a potential candidate nor give them that vibe things can get messy really fast.

I think I've covered it if anyone has any questions about this please ask me be blunt in your question go with what, why, how I don't always catch the meaning of things.

Anyway I hope you all have some answers to this now and if there is anyone who has been in a stable or run a stable please message me as I think we should discuss a better term something modern maybe. 

Play safe 

J


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