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Rose's Thorns.

A general pondering.
5 months ago. Thu 23 May 2019 03:18:20 PM IDT

okay big sigh... 

i have seen on a few profiles now that a sub is in no way in charge. That a Dom has control and in charge of every aspect of the dynamic and its a woman's natural place to not be in charge and be by there side. 

i would kindly suggest people re exam in there wording. 

A sub although on her or his knees is actually the one with the control. Not the Dom. 

i know im going to get so much flack for this. 

A sub can stop at any point. I do mean ANY point they choose to. Which is why a sub is in control. 

A Dom has power over nuances and situation. A sub has control as that situation can not take place without there yes there consent or happiness otherwise its stopped. Infact a sub can guide a Dom with amber green and red. 

Wanting a woman in her 'natural place' to wait on you isn't a Dom unless the sub agrees....

seeing a pattern here? 

This is not the place for egocentric wanting to be waited, women to second class, on needing to control everything with possessive intent. That is not BDSM. 

on many Dom profiles, this is how its coming across even if its not meant that way, i would kindly think about rewording. 

waiting for the first arrow to fly. 

FunCouple{.-Couple-.} -
Hello RT
Nothing wrong in what you said.
Here is my very first post on the cage:

https://thecage.co/blog/userblog.php?blog_id=28559&postid=5389

It is my old profile, as a single Dom, before Kitty.
Thought I might share .... again.
FC
5 months ago
rosethorn​(sub female) - Ta chick
5 months ago
dollMaker​(dom male){SaViDa} - Well said.
5 months ago
rosethorn​(sub female) - Thanks
5 months ago
MasterBrads painpet​(sub female){OWNED} - Very well said and agreed.
5 months ago
rosethorn​(sub female) - Thanks
5 months ago
Justme26 - I think this is very important. If people do not get it then it can all go horribly wrong.
5 months ago
rosethorn​(sub female) - That's my concern, just because one kneels doesn't mean the other is above them, there is always give and take but one isn't above the other
5 months ago
Primal Jewels​(switch female){MySire’s} - Word! 😀☀️🌈
5 months ago
CrimsonPaw - 💯 yes, exactly. Hopefully the ones who aren't yet clued in will read your blog. 💓
5 months ago
Nat Blue - All one has to do is read about Allison Mack pleading guilty last month to know District Attorney's take consent pretty seriously.
5 months ago
hisgoodbunny​(sub female){Darth} - Oh sweetie try to ignore them as best you can. I have to also. Hugs
5 months ago
Max Sterne​(dom male){Morley} - No arrows from me. Doms only have power because the subs allow it. Any Dom that doesnt get that is a fool.
5 months ago
Sweet ginger​(sub female){My Sir Don} - Thank you for posting this! Think some need to be reminded of this ever know and then! :)
5 months ago
Sweet ginger​(sub female){My Sir Don} - *now and then * agh! No comment posting before coffee ☕ 😜
5 months ago
DaddyAnt​(dom male) - Well said, and I am reading my profile... Uh-oh. I look like a bastard. Rrwording it now. My profile doesn't come off very well as stated.
Thank you for the heads up to us old schoolers who phrase things in a more traditional manner that you young-uns don't identify with. But, one thing I am is a learning Dom
5 months ago
DrWakko{RL ONLY} - I’m going to push back on this just a bit. A D/s relationship is a give and take a ying Yang relationship. Both sides play a roll to make the other side better. I think D/s gets lost in the “who has the power debate”. I can not fulfill my role without the other half and my other half can’t fulfill her role without me (or someone like me). Both have the power because they can survive on their own. However either want to survive (not talking suicide) with out their other half. Hence the ying and yang.

I think if you go into or think about a relationship as “I have the power in the relationship” (doesn’t matter what side of the slash you are on) then your relationship will fail. Work with your partner to make yourself stronger and bring out your partners strengths and you will have a strong and lasting relationship.
5 months ago
rosethorn​(sub female) - I agree there is a bond and a give and take, this was in response to some profiles i had seen where they stated i am the Dom i have control over everything and a sub or woman has no control... Sort of creeped me out.
5 months ago
rosethorn​(sub female) - Any relationship is give and take together and negotiate, i felt it important to put across the sub can stop at any point with safeword and have control in that way.
5 months ago
DrWakko{RL ONLY} - What you are describing is a relationship type. Of all the Masters and slaves that I know, that type of relationship is more common online than in real life. Though I know people who try to live as close as I can to that. If you are interested in dating someone who has that in their profile it might be a red flag for you not to get into a relationship with that type of person. Or they may have that on their profile to scare of people and by talking to them you will find out what kind of relationship they really want.
5 months ago
rosethorn​(sub female) - Saying all women are submissive and that is there natural place. I disagree, i know there are Masters and slaves but this wasn't that.
5 months ago
rosethorn​(sub female) - It wasn't coming across as that so might need looking at how its written, if that's what it was.
5 months ago
DrWakko{RL ONLY} - I believe what you are talking about in an incel. An incel has nothing to do with bdsm or D/s or M/s.
5 months ago
rosethorn​(sub female) - I haven't heard of Incel? Also it was in response to a message and profile i had seen which you have not, i don't see any harm with a gentle reminder to rexamine and update profiles as we all learn and grow, i include myself in that, sometimes we can forget to update them.
5 months ago
dollMaker​(dom male){SaViDa} - Incels are a type of male that hate women as they feel hard done by because they feel women owe them a relationship, and sex. Thats an over simplification, but Incels can be dangerous. Read more here https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Incel
5 months ago
rosethorn​(sub female) - Thanks, I've learned something new today.
5 months ago
Phanes57​(dom male) - What is the sense of putting something in a profile to scare off people, dont make sense? This lifestyle as well as any other is built on being true to who you are and trust and respect between the parties involved. If you cant see fit to show a true reflection as to who you are in the begin with; how are you to be trusted should someone decide to take that person into consideration of a relationship? Be Real People!!!
5 months ago
dollMaker​(dom male){SaViDa} - Phanes thankfully these individuals plaster their profils with red flags that anyone with a bit of knowledge can spot, unfortunately many are not aware enough to be able to spot those red flags. So they are being truthful to who they are. Abusers, fantasists, wanabes and the dangerous ignorrant.

Educate yourselfs in the lifestyle, what is and isnt BDSM, what is and isnt a dominant etc, and with knowledge one can more easily spot the red flags and the dangerous ones. Though the clever ones are harder to spot.
5 months ago
rosethorn​(sub female) - Notice i haven't said power... I don't see power and control over a situation and being able to stop it as the same thing, im curious now if others do.
5 months ago

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