I had a really amazing conversation with a dear young submissive.
We were talking about her past relationships. She said that she was concerned about becoming a submissive again because she loses herself.
I thought about that for a good hard minute and then something clicked.
I said to her:
You need to start thinking about how a Dominant will fit into your life. Not how you will fit into a Dominants life. You need to start thinking about-- in real time --what it would mean for you to have a supportive Dominant. What it mean that the days that you're studying for 8 hours the Dominant brings you lunch? How is it in real time the Dominant would fit into your life and make you a better and stronger person if you met them today?
Just because you have things in your life that need to take priority over what a Dominant needs does not make you less submissive. It makes you a powerful human being. As a Master type owning a powerful human being is beyond words.
My beloved owns her own business. I helped her build that business starting 5 years ago. I have ACTIVELY supported and promoted her business from the start. The stronger my beloved becomes, the more self-assured my beloved becomes means the more I have to up my game for her to lay her slavery at my feet.
For me, a strong, self-assured, intelligent, brazen, beautiful and mind blowing slave and or submissive is not only an amazing person to know but also a call to the D types to get and or to have their shit together
In our community there is a D-type that likes to date college women. Invariably they never finished college. It's been 3 they're onto number 4.
So as I am talking to this lovely new person I wanted to create the idea that it is healthy to have expectations of their D-type. It also creates an easier way to determine whether or not the relationship is healthy for them.
So I encourage all of you as s types to flip the script. To start thinking about what a D-type needs to do to fit into your life. To start thinking about what characteristics a D-type would need to have to be able to own you.
