My Journey Through Life: Vanilla and Non-Vanilla

justwatching - Personally, I didn’t think of it in terms of “if I was ready or not”
I was raised by a man who had a very strict, militaristic view on life so I naturally gravitated towards “ strong”men who took control of me. I never felt comfortable with a man who didn’t have a strong grip on me mentally and physically. I later learned there’s a whole lifestyle where the man or Dom has control over the submissive’s mind, body, and spirit if they enter into a TPE dynamic. As far as the specifics of which dynamic D/s, M/s, DD/lg, etc, read about them and talk to people in those dynamics.
How to be safe?
Never just jump into any dynamic. Communicate communicate communicate!!
Always have a safe word. Discuss WHAT that safe word even means to you both. Keep an eye out for red flags 🚩
What got me curious?
A boyfriend who was a Dom but not really a Dom. (he needed mentoring Jesus Christ) he opened my eyes to this world and I wanted more.
Limits? Those are super super personal.
Think about what you absolutely are not willing to do/try and also think about soft limits. It might be different for others but soft limits to me are things I am hesitant about but willing to try if my Dom takes it slow and is ready to stop at a moments notice.
I am still learning. I am relatively new to the kink world. But this is what I know/have figured out so far ❤️

princesstae​(sub female) - I understand those I was just labeling what goes on after you've learn those? I should've explained better my mind tend to get jumbled and my thoughts aren't clear on what I'm saying or mean

princesstae​(sub female) - none theless thank you for your input How did you know you were ready to go out into the kinky world. That you learned what you needed to know.❤️

Literate Lycan​(dom male) - It's like swimming in a pool Play in the shallow end where you can put your feet down until you are sure you can swim or your floats work well. Then swim with a few friends, while the lifeguard watches. Soon, you'll be the elder watching out for the new swimmers. But after you've beat the pool, there is still an entire ocean you can look forward to. Even if you just wade in the surf and never go any deeper. There is always a next step. . . and a step after that. Enjoy the walk. Figure out what paths you like and don't like. And just because you're ready to dive in doesn't mean you have to stop taking advice. Many of the members with decades of experience learn new things every day. Best of luck.

princesstae​(sub female) - Thank you:)