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4 years ago. February 7, 2020 at 1:18 AM

*proceed with caution, delicate subject not all may agree and lots will say breech hard limits*

So the contents of this post will contain children, however none in a sexual way and none with any adults. The context in which they are used is only due to the situation that recently was observed and brought around. They were not harmed, coached, taught or helped along in anything they did. Their parents were well aware of everything happening and not against any of it. To protect them all names are changed and will not be given out. If you have anything negative to say please keep it respectful otherwise I will delete your comment. You can feel free to leave this blog at any time if you feel uncomfortable reading this.

So my older sister was recently visiting us at home and she brought her grandson who is 6, we shall call him Snow. He is a very energetic happy boy who is very curious about the world.

We also babysit my younger sisters son who is 3 who we shall call Ice. Ice already has shown traits that lean toward puppy play. Things such as chewing on puppy toys, barking, howling, crawling on the floor and wanting to play fetch all the time with balls.

What I find interesting is that Snow picked up one of Ice's dinosaurs and asked if he wanted it, then told him to sit. After he did Snow gave him the toy and told him he was a good boy, rubbed his head and Ice was very happy wiggling in delight. Pretty sure that if Ice had a tail, it would have been wagging in joy and delight. Then Snow told him to stay, held his hand up in classic stay position and backed away saying stay repeatedly as he backed away but Ice jumped up and followed giggling. Snow walked Ice back over and took Ice back to the spot telling him to sit again. This "play scene" if you will, continued on for about 20 minutes with both boys laughing and generally having a great time and in the end sat on the couch together playing video games chatting about the dynamics of how the game worked and why.

What I am wondering here is since neither of them have ever been exposed to kink or BDSM before, is that is the relationship of pup and handler just a part of what make you who you are? Or is it something that you learn from others as you are growing up from spending time around others (I.E. adults training real dogs, dogs playing with toys when you are an infant crawling on the floor, and an adult throws toys then you start playing fetch with them and find out how much fun it is and play, then that nature continues as you get older? That because of the accepting nature of the environment you are raised in, no one disputes your behavior but rather encourages it because it is making you happy? Or is this a learned thing that as you grow up you see others interacting in a certain way and how it makes them feel and decide that is how you should behave to feel the same way in order to fit in? If this is so then does it mean that trauma can play a role in brain chemistry and make up turning you into the person you end up becoming when you reach adulthood?


I just find it interesting because Snow called Ice boy and petted him on his head and Ice got happy and ran to him every chance he got super happy and wiggly happy to see him just as you expect a puppy would to see its owner. Ice escorted Snow to the couch, waited for him to get on the couch, then ran to get him his TV remote (a play one) then after he gave him the remote happily, Snow patted the couch and Ice hopped up to sit next to him happily to watch cartoons together.

--Travis--

HGB​(sub female){Scottish M} - Hope that playfulness never goes away. Personally, So much is inherent yet so much learned. When you see genetic traits it's not difficult to spot. Flip side when one not blood related has same traits you figure learned. Same to be said with differences.
4 years ago
Pup Kit Kato{BratJack} - I hope not either as that fun carefree energy is a very great thing to have indeed for both of them. I know you can see genetic traits as in physical ones, but what about seeing ones such as behavioral traits like BDSM behaviors such as puppy play IE puppy and handler that you cant see by looking but when playing such as Snow and Ice were naturally come out?
4 years ago
HGB​(sub female){Scottish M} - I think it's possible simply by knowing personality traits that myself, my father and my daughter all have and my son who was raised by another family.
4 years ago
Pup Kit Kato{BratJack} - That is very possible now that i think of it, if you know someone well enough and ones they are related to, pick8ng out certain traits in them based on what you know shouldnt be too hard. Thank you for the insight it is definately appreciated
4 years ago
ADIDAS - My two 8 year old grandsons LOVE to play " puppies " or " kitties " and they are very detailed at it. Their puppy play is either or both are puppies. If both are puppies, my older, ( by 4 months) is always the lead puppy. My youngest always does exactly what the older does.... copy cat if you'll pardon the pun, lol.... but even before I read this post I even had thoughts of seeing the inherent traits of puppy play already in my older grandson. He loves being the only puppy with a human to play with! Throw toys for him to fetch, scratch him on his head, give him treats in his open mouth, rub his tummy, (which I always turn into a tickle fight because he's very ticklish!) All the puppy/ human play traits. Only problem is his mom shames him for it. "STOP IT!You're too old for that! " just disapproval from her and I see how much playing the puppy brings him happiness just as I see the shame and reprimand brings him deep sadness and questions. Why is that wrong? He is thinking..... I don't blame him either. He's not doing this for sexual gratification obviously, but his mom, my DIL, acts like hes been caught masturbating, poor guy!! I don't know what to do for him without blatantly going against my daughter in law.

One other observation.... at least for the oldest, the one who's totally into it, he's been raised with a chocolate lab, extremely well trained BTW, from birth he's had Bella in his life, and refers to her as his best friend.

Update: we have recently lost our Bella and she's crossed the rainbow 🌈 Bridge.... we will never forget the impact she made on our lives. We'll love her forever. She was more than our pet, she was a member of the whole family.

Thank you for this post! It has really helped me think about things and be much more prepared for whatever my grandsons will develop into.... doesn't matter what or who they become, I'm gonna love them and accept them no matter what they do!!!
3 years ago
ADIDAS - Sorry for such a long comment!!
Ms. A 💗💗💗
3 years ago

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