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The purpose of this blog is about Slave Training, Mind Control, and living the life 24/7 It is focused on training methods, building trust, finding out what makes you slave/sub tick and how to use that to train them, it also focuses on hypnosis and creating triggers to cause spicific reactions and develop permanent behaviors. Ways of handling the the day to day of normal life. Rules, and a plan for your training, building a guide for what you want your slave to become, contracts, limits, and expectations. Unless you have unlimited time and resources living the lifestyle in a total 24/7 way can be complicated. The idea is to create an evolving frame work that can adapt to the changes in life and still keep the relationship strong, and healthy.
6 years ago. March 5, 2018 at 1:14 AM

Slave, Sub, What is the difference?


What is the difference? While it is true that it's not the same for everyone, there are differences, between a slave and a sub. some of them are in the limits set during the communication process, the feelings a particular person has, the image in there mind when they think about being submissive, also a mixture of there fantasies and the depth they wish to delve. How much of there daily life do they want to have BDSM integrated into. I think that a sliding scale is a good way to measure the level of your kinks, like the BDSM test. (You can look this up online and take it if you want, I have.) you can than build a self profile based on the categories you find most drawn to
So let me say this, slave, sub, can over lap it's not a set thing, and sometimes a label is just a word.
I am covering this as if being a Slave is at the highest end of her scale. Though each slave is unique and must be given individual attention tailored to there needs and desires. Discovered through the communication process, (For me see my blog Foundations)

The Slave:

A slave gives herself over to her Master as completely as is humanly possible with in the allowable framework of life. A slave is property, a possession, an object, a person, and a precious gift. She is owned and giving you her mind body and maybe even soul. In as much as that can be done.
The slave wants to be owned, even possessed by her Master. To have rules, guidelines and structures to live by. She has given her consent for you to take control of her and her life. The deepest level she can give is to allow you to mold her entire mind into your desire with her primary focus being you and your pleasure, happiness, and general well being, and all her pleasure comes from giving this to you. Is it possible to do that? People are motivated by having purpose, a sense of knowing there place in the world, where they fit. We see it in religion, causes, a dedication to something or someone. This seems to be a natural human need, even the Master needs to own a slave, that gives him purpose.


Because she is a slave she may even need to be striped of all that is her and remade into her Master's vision, degradation and humiliation, strict rituals and rules, harsh punishment, a set of rules that covers as much of her life and situations as it can. The more of her life that is filled with this focus the more she feels owned, loved and cared for. Let it be said the more time you put into her the more you will get out of it. these can be things a slave desires,

Addendum: Based on a comment given.

I will add it is not healty to strip someone of there personality or core self this can brake someone. and would be irresponcible of a Master/Dom to do.

 

The Sub:

A sub is more complex to define, they want a lot of different things, certainly to submit and give up some control, she wants the dynamic of her kink, whatever that maybe. She is not looking for total control in all of her life, (though she might) she wants to know that she can still be herself, she is looking for guidance, direction, structure. She will have limits, even conditions to her submission, specific times and places that she submits. She may have an entire vanilla life that she wants to live as a vanilla person. She may have one Dom/Master or more. She may want a relationship, or be in one, she may want a Dom/Master for a very specific part of her life. She is not property, (though you may own her). She is not an object, ( though she might like that ). She is not a slave. ( though she might want to play one). She is first and foremost a person, who happens to be submissive. She wants and needs a safe place and person to explore this part of herself, she has fantasies or ideas that have gotten her to look at that side of her self and now she wants to live that to some degree.

All that said this is just my observations and personal take on that question. I welcome any slaves, or subs to comment on or give input on the differences they see.

Shadowlord

TakenLower - I do not like when I hear Master’s speaking of stripping a slave and reshaping her. When you do this the process is barbaric and dangerous. No individual is trained to do this in a safe way. Essentially this is what you’re saying: Use, abuse, dehumanization, degradation, humiliation, deprivation and torture are all elements to put the mind in a state of negative self worth and primal need. Then you create an event that breaks the mind, which in essence means the subject no longer thinks they are a lowly piece of worthless shit, but it becomes their truth, their reality. At this point just a miniscule amount of positive attention will make this former human desperate to do anything for this person. It binds the slave to the Master on a subconcious level, a primal level no different than a dog.
6 years ago
shadowlord22​(dom male) - I did say it was the highest end of the scale, and you are correct, I have met some people who claim they desire such, though it is not something I desire as to me it is nothing more than a mindless robot, so to speak.
6 years ago
shadowlord22​(dom male) - I personaly think that people who say they desire such a thing don't actually know what there asking for, and what it really means to make that happen, it is one reason I pointed out the blog on foundations, because a responsible Master/Dom should always seek the well being of there slave/sub.
6 years ago
shadowlord22​(dom male) - Do you want me to add that in?
6 years ago
TakenLower - I feel like your heart is in the right place but I also feel like you could unknowingly turn someone on to something they have no business messing with. They think a little research here, a couple books there and voila they are qualified.
6 years ago
shadowlord22​(dom male) - What than should I do not share my knowledge? The thing is I have a lot of insights and want to offer them. I try to be careful, try to point out the proper ways to do such.
it is a tought choice because I know I am giving people a loaded gun, but I am also helping good people understand the incredible power we really have and how it can be good or bad.
6 years ago
ShellyBean​(sub female) - Sharing your insight is always good whether one agrees with it or not. Different views and different opinions is one of many ways we learn. Please continue to share your thoughts through your blogs. They are welcome here.
6 years ago
shadowlord22​(dom male) - Thank you I intend to continue, and I will add that I can't take responsibility for someone misusing my knowledge.
6 years ago
Starlight82​(other female) - I have been asked this question a few times. What makes me different than a slave? When i enjoy control and rules, domestication, dress and boundaries, to abide by what he says. My answer was very similar to yours. That i still have a voice and a mind of my own. My dominant needs to be able to listen and consider my view point and that i am to trust his judgement there after. It is still a give and take partnership. And no I am not a robot. My thoughts and feelings matter and are up most important. At rhe end I can always say No and that reaponce is to be respected. Thank you for your insight it does cause interesting discussion.
6 years ago
Redtailedkitty - I’ve appreciated reading your blogs. It has given me much insight into the meaning of what a slave is, how it can work and why. I struggle with this concept especially with the concerns that Takenlower mentioned in her reply. It can be so dangerous to mess with someone’s mind. I also agree that sharing knowledge is critical and people need to take ownership for their own choices. It is a double-edged sword though. Caution must be taken in how things are worded.
6 years ago
T slave​(sub female){Owned} - i decided to respond to your blog because i have chosen to live the life of a slave. i accepted my Masters collar and am proud to be called His property. With that being said this has been a long amazing journey . i feel your blog accurately explains the slave vs sub dynamics and is responsible when including the mention of your blog "Foundation ".
Communication between the individuals is the key, don't you think?
In my situation it took years of service and trust building before i could make this commitment.
I have enjoyed your blogs, please keep writing them, its fun to have some healthy debate on this subject.
6 years ago
shadowlord22​(dom male) - You Bring up valid points I will endeavor to address, I am by no means perfect. I have not shared this information with anyone in the past and it is as much a learning possess for me and what I am sharing with others. I am sure I will make mistakes and strive to learn from them. As I have not had the opportunity to share my thoughts with anyone I have not had any outside input. So I welcome comments and constructive criticism, as I stated in my other post this is my experience. If I failed to address something I am willing to start a blog on that subject, perhaps I have made the assumption that I was conveying my feelings being SSC with the things I put forth. If I failed to do so I apologize for this short fall.
6 years ago
SchrodingersDinosaur​(switch female) - Shadowlord, as a submissive ( and sometime switch) I totally get your definition of a sub. For me anyway, it's spot on. I've never been, nor really see myself, in a slave dynamic, so I am not qualified to weigh in on that description. I would submit though, that even in a sub role, some Doms do utilize mind control. If you've placed your trust as a submissive in the wrong Dom, damage can be done in that dynamic too. Personal experience...I do appreciate your wanting to pass your knowledge on, I don't think it's dangerous, on the contrary, the more both roles know about the options within the Lifestyle the more apt one is to be able to make an informed decision about what is best for them. Just my two cents.... - Henna
6 years ago
TakenLower - I have no issues with getting out information. If you’ve read my blog, specifically the posts Devaluation, The Danger in Aftercare and The Victim and The Villian, you can see that I also share my experience. However, I don’t make it sexy, appealing or fun. I try to impart the seriousness of it, the level of commitment required and the potential dangers lurking in every aspect. That is my responsibility to the ones that may want to try.
6 years ago

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