Slave, Sub, What is the difference?
What is the difference? While it is true that it's not the same for everyone, there are differences, between a slave and a sub. some of them are in the limits set during the communication process, the feelings a particular person has, the image in there mind when they think about being submissive, also a mixture of there fantasies and the depth they wish to delve. How much of there daily life do they want to have BDSM integrated into. I think that a sliding scale is a good way to measure the level of your kinks, like the BDSM test. (You can look this up online and take it if you want, I have.) you can than build a self profile based on the categories you find most drawn to
So let me say this, slave, sub, can over lap it's not a set thing, and sometimes a label is just a word.
I am covering this as if being a Slave is at the highest end of her scale. Though each slave is unique and must be given individual attention tailored to there needs and desires. Discovered through the communication process, (For me see my blog Foundations)
The Slave:
A slave gives herself over to her Master as completely as is humanly possible with in the allowable framework of life. A slave is property, a possession, an object, a person, and a precious gift. She is owned and giving you her mind body and maybe even soul. In as much as that can be done.
The slave wants to be owned, even possessed by her Master. To have rules, guidelines and structures to live by. She has given her consent for you to take control of her and her life. The deepest level she can give is to allow you to mold her entire mind into your desire with her primary focus being you and your pleasure, happiness, and general well being, and all her pleasure comes from giving this to you. Is it possible to do that? People are motivated by having purpose, a sense of knowing there place in the world, where they fit. We see it in religion, causes, a dedication to something or someone. This seems to be a natural human need, even the Master needs to own a slave, that gives him purpose.
Because she is a slave she may even need to be striped of all that is her and remade into her Master's vision, degradation and humiliation, strict rituals and rules, harsh punishment, a set of rules that covers as much of her life and situations as it can. The more of her life that is filled with this focus the more she feels owned, loved and cared for. Let it be said the more time you put into her the more you will get out of it. these can be things a slave desires,
Addendum: Based on a comment given.
I will add it is not healty to strip someone of there personality or core self this can brake someone. and would be irresponcible of a Master/Dom to do.
The Sub:
A sub is more complex to define, they want a lot of different things, certainly to submit and give up some control, she wants the dynamic of her kink, whatever that maybe. She is not looking for total control in all of her life, (though she might) she wants to know that she can still be herself, she is looking for guidance, direction, structure. She will have limits, even conditions to her submission, specific times and places that she submits. She may have an entire vanilla life that she wants to live as a vanilla person. She may have one Dom/Master or more. She may want a relationship, or be in one, she may want a Dom/Master for a very specific part of her life. She is not property, (though you may own her). She is not an object, ( though she might like that ). She is not a slave. ( though she might want to play one). She is first and foremost a person, who happens to be submissive. She wants and needs a safe place and person to explore this part of herself, she has fantasies or ideas that have gotten her to look at that side of her self and now she wants to live that to some degree.
All that said this is just my observations and personal take on that question. I welcome any slaves, or subs to comment on or give input on the differences they see.
Shadowlord