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3 years ago. May 21, 2020 at 9:38 PM

So I havent been on here in a while due to life. But I just figured I might as well write this because I'm confused.

 

I have never been in a vanilla or even none violent relationship and I have found myself in one. I'm happy it's not violent and we have great communication. The sex is good and he always takes care of my needs before his own. But I miss being used, punished, choked, handled, and restrained. 

 

I dont know how to express this to him as he has not ever been in this type of relationship. Nor have I ever had to explain to someone these needs. Usually I just end up with someone who already has experience and we just go over limits and such. 

 

He claims he is open to trying new things as I am open about my past relationships. But I dont know how to even bring it up or "use my words" for lack of a better explanation. I feel guilty and selfish for wanting him to do things to me, as he is the sweetest most gentle person I've ever met. But in saying that the aftercare thoughts makes me want it that much more. 

 

I'm sure if we talked about it he would try it, but what if he doesnt like it? I'm scared of how it could effect our relationship and I try so hard not to mess things up with us because I am happy. He doesnt make me feel insecure, he understands my crazy life, and works with me on my bad mental days. Ugh!!!! 

 

At least I feel better for finally getting it off my chest. 

Fyglia Wicked​(dom female) - "We have great communication."
Yet you dont know how to bring up him filling your kinks ?

If your kinks are more important than everything you say you like about him you need to bring up the issue and see what happens .
Dragging it out is only keeping him under the false impression your happy in the " relationship "
3 years ago
Little Brat xoxo​(sub female){N/A} - It's not more important just messed and craved. But thank you I appreciate the feed back!!!
3 years ago
SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - You are also struggling against your Brat. Brats have a hard time asking and "using your words", in large part due to past trauma.

You need to talk to him. Ask Jim what HE is interested in exploring. Reassure him that nothing he could say would be scary for you because you have a vast array of familiarity with various different sexual styles.
3 years ago
Max Heathen​(other male) - She means "Ask him"... Cuz you're not bones from star trek... 😂
3 years ago
SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - Fuckin' Jim!!!!
3 years ago
Little Brat xoxo​(sub female){N/A} - Thank you for the valid points!!!!
3 years ago
Little Brat xoxo​(sub female){N/A} - Thank you all so much!!!! I seriously appreciate the feed back so much!!!! This is honestly such a good community!!!
3 years ago
Lion​(dom male){Hazel Eyes} - One way you could start the conversation either after sex or while cuddling on the couch, hey what are your fantasies? Trust me all men have them, now be assured if he mentions a 3 some you can move the conversation to how do you feel about spanking or tying me up. Start with little things and work your way up. Best thing is to be honest about how you feel, you keeping your feelings hidden may result in your resentment towards him for what you truly want and crave. Hope everything works out for the best. Big hug. 😊
3 years ago
Little Brat xoxo​(sub female){N/A} - Thank you!!!!
3 years ago
Little Brat xoxo​(sub female){N/A} - Thank you so much!!!
3 years ago

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