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The Chimera's Whispers

Musings, whispers, thoughts, opinions, murmurs, and lessons learned from someone returning to the Lifestyle.
3 years ago. June 18, 2020 at 3:10 PM

"Why was The Chimera mean to me?"

"Why did The Chimera ignore me?"
 

If you're here asking those questions after PMing me, or approaching me- then please read this blogpost.
If you decide not to, or skim this, or just don't read it at all and continue pestering me. Chances are - you're going to get blocked/ignored, and if things continue you may even get reported for harassment.


"Why was the chimera mean to me?"

Firstly. I'm a lady. I will be treated as such. Did you approach me rudely/inappropriately?

  •  Approaching me with "hi slave" or "hi slut" is going to get you told off.
  • Approaching me acting like I'm some object to oggle over, or a slab of meat to drool on; will get you told off.
  • Approaching me acting as if you're going to be my new Dominant is going to get you told off.
  • Approaching me with lewd/inappropriate compliments such as "You're tits look so fucking hawt" is going to get you told off.
  • Sending me unwanted images of your genitals is going to get you told off (and more than likely laughed at.)
  • Asking me rude/inappropriate questions is going to get you told off.
  • Not respecting my dynamic/collar is going to get you told off.
  • Flooding my inbox with messages one after the other will get you told off.
  • Sending me cookie cutter copy/paste messages you've send 3+ other subs is going to get you told off. (Do I look like I'm part of a production line?)
  • Making it painstakingly obvious you didn't bother to read my profile will get you told off.
  • Trying to pose off as asking me general questions about BDSM, only to try and slowly nose in to the privacy of my dynamic and what I do with my Dom sexually behind closed doors so you can jerk-off to it is going to get you told off. (Yep, this happened. What we do sexually is none of your business. And that level of desperation to get your rocks off is disgusting, not to mention pathetic.)
  • Trying to pretend that you want to be my friend, in order to try and wedge yourself into my dynamic, or trying to use friendship with me as a means to cozy up to my Dominant- is going to get you told off. 


You wouldn't approach a stranger in a coffee shop like that would you? No? Then don't do it to me here. Just because my tag reads "submissive" doesn't make me a doormat for you to try and kick around.
I don't know you, and nor do I take kindly to people acting rude to me. If you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all.

 

"Why did The Chimera ignore me?"
More than likely, you PMed me with zero context.  Some manner of one-liner to try and make small-talk. "Hello" -- "Hi" --"Hi how r u?" -- "hi wanna chat?"
If you're new, that's great. Welcome to The Cage, please take a look around.
If you need help or want to learn, you're welcome to ask me. Just don't place a single liner of "hi" at me. There's many ways to start a decent conversation. "Hello there, I'm new to this site and I found your profile from a response you made on the forums and I was hoping to chat with you about what a submissive is?" <-- THAT is perfect, I'd love to talk with you if you're genuinely seeking info.

If you're too lazy/busy to actually start a proper conversation with context. Then I'm too lazy/busy to respond.

 

However, if you come to me and pretend to want to learn about BDSM - and use that as a gateway to try and fish information about what my Dom and I do sexually behind closed doors. Chances are I'll just drop you, or you're going to get told off.

 

"Can we still be friends?"
Maybe. If you cannot respect my Dynamic, or my boundaries. Then, no, we cannot be friends.

 

Also; just for others to use if they're so inclined:

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"Whoa, Chimera, you ok?"

Thank you for asking, yes I'm ok! I'm just tired. I'm tired of repeating myself over and over again. I'm tired of having to go through being barraged in messages that don't respect or completely disregard my collar; I'm setting this up to where- if someone PMs me, I'm just going to link them to this blog. Or, they can find this blog post through my profile.
It's my way of setting up some detachment/distancing. Makes it a little easier on me~







JadeMermaid​(sub female) - OMG I AM STEALING THIS
3 years ago
TheChimera​(sub female) - I had a feeling you might, haha!
And others are welcome to use this as well if they feel the need to set up some "Distance" and detachment from people poking at them
3 years ago
Cello Master​(dom male) - Thank you
3 years ago
TheChimera​(sub female) - Why thank me? Lol.
3 years ago
Cello Master​(dom male) - Sorry I’m just responding to this… I didn’t see it three days ago. Because of how forthright you are and because of how you laid down the law. And because you let me talk to you and that is so valuable to me. I need friends and I consider you one of my best friends here. Love and peace to you... And isn’t that what we all need and want ?
3 years ago
TheChimera​(sub female) - Guh, you're such a sweetheart Cello...
I find your friendship valuable too. Love and peace to you too ^^
3 years ago
darlingnikki​(sub female){Taken} - Chim, what a lovely guide for people who just can't TAKE A HINT.
3 years ago
skyrich​(dom male){rottenbrat} - Beautiful, just beautiful. I invite all to see my brat's blog "Adventures in Stupidity" to see how we handle these nuisances. :)
Here's a link to "Adventure #1"
https://thecage.co/blog/userblog.php?postid=33550&blog_id=84871
3 years ago
rottenbrat​(sub female){Skyrich} - Yes! Yes! And sooooooo much more HELL YES! You are singing my tune! 😁
3 years ago
SSG{ENM-TLP} - very good idea. can I use yours and just say, replace SSG for chimera. ;) kidding of course.
3 years ago
TheChimera​(sub female) - If you want to, please go ahead!
3 years ago
InYourHead​(dom male) - Well written. Sadly, no one understands what respect truly is anymore, and no one has Manners. Very few can hold a conversation anymore either. The new generations of "Doms", and I use that term loosely, has all the respect, manners and conversation ability of cavemen. " Ugh..Me Master, you slave"

And sadly subs are not much better lately. If you cant carry on a conversation with me, then why would I be interested ?

I’ve came to the conclusion that there’s a whole lot of just plain don’t give a damn , and then they want to bitch because they get ignored .

3 years ago
TheChimera​(sub female) - I'm inclined to agree with you, IYH (If you don't mind me using an acronym for your name; InYourHead)
I've discussed this with a couple people - and I Really do believe a lot of people fall into the trap of "instant satisfaction." and the vanilla world is just as guilty as those in the lifestyle.

People WANT a relationship/dynamic. But they don't want to put in the *work* for it.
Once they realize "Oh shit, my sub is having a rough time and won't service me now." or "Oh no, My Dom is feeling bad, and won't Dom me right now"
they high-tail it outta there!
They just move on to "the next one" and with the influence of internet - it's very easy to connect to people online (But not so much personally, if that makes sense)

Then they wonder "Why do I feel so alone?"
/rant

Apologies, got ranty there for a sec, had to reel myself in!

3 years ago
TheChimera​(sub female) - Ps- I'm sorry you have to deal with submissives that are similar. Personally, I've seen a few extremes... The biggest one it- They latch on to anything with "Dom" in their title that'll give them a wayward glance, have zero boundaries, and don't understand the meaning of the term. They expect the Dominant to make them "better" from different things, primarily mental issues/anguish. (When that's something they need to do themselves.) and are super selfish. They claim they're a "sub" but expect others to do things for them, or have the stance of "what can you do for ME?"

Guh- ranty again- I'ma stop here.
Tread carefully, friendo. Lol I can empathize with you on the difficulties. (Being a switch I've experienced a bit of the above from my last relationshit.)
3 years ago
InYourHead​(dom male) - The Chimera.. No, I’m perfectly fine with you using an acronym. And I agree with the instant gratification . No Dominant, myself included, are miracle workers. We have bad days. We get sick. Sometimes we just don’t have a solution to our subs problem. I earnestly do my best to cheer up my slaves if they are down, or having a bad day. But no Dominant can truly fix someone’s mental hang ups.

I’m rambling. But yes we are in agreement on things.
3 years ago
TheChimera​(sub female) - Haha~ It's good though!
Cheers!
3 years ago
TheChimera​(sub female) - New edits have been added.
3 years ago
Cello Master​(dom male) - Chim, you haven’t been mean to me yet.. don’t you love me?
3 years ago
TheChimera​(sub female) - BIG Difference between friendly teasing, and being absolutely mean; Cello. <3 goofball.
3 years ago
FloraDragon​(dom male){Roaming Wi} - You capture everything perfectly thank you Chim. I think my biggest vent is the inability to read and understand a persons profile (well allegedly read), reminds me of a Dom who pm Roaming saying how he read profile etc, I contacted him to say that since he had read her profile he would notice that contacts are through me - as we were in a monog. relationship. His response "Fuck off dickhead", then blocked me. Clearly a bright and intelligent individual . He is still active on this site...unfortunately.
3 years ago

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