There are so many degrees in all the categories of fetishes. When we are asked to list our hard limits they can sometimes be vague and we think we are in tune with a potential partner when we aren't. This is what I wrote in my journal; although I wrote it down to clear up some things for myself initially, it was shared with my Dom. I have my toes dipped in a lot of fetish pools, but I am not immersed in any specific one, and this list solidified that.
So tonight I wanted to go through and list things that I like or would like to try
1. Age play- I would like to be bathed and read to, my hair brushed...and do the same to you.
2. Bondage- not trussed up like you are a cowboy at a rodeo, but…well...maybe...
3. Breathplay- not shut off my air supply, but I love when you firmly grasp me by my neck
4. Foot fetish- foot rub, paint my toenails...I would love to wash your feet and give you a foot massage
5. Gagging- it's ok to push deeper. If I think I'm about to lose consciousness due to lack of oxygen, I will do something to get your attention
6. Humiliation- call me your slut in bed, make me walk around naked when in the house...mild humiliation is a turn on.
7. Impact play- I’m up for anything except caning or punching...this includes spanking, whips, floggers, paddling, light smacking, crops...just keep it to the T and A areas (thighs are ok as well) no permanent marks and never forget the aftercare.
8. Japanese Bondage takes a lot of time, but I am willing to try it if you are
9. Lactation- ANR
10. Rimming- I would try with you but with frequent wash breaks or dental dam
11. Roleplay- too many scenarios to mention in this list
12. Rough Sex- take me but don’t torture me
13. Sensation Play/Deprivation The Wartenberg Wheel could fall in this category
14. The Submission Poses
15. All types of Vibrating Toys
16. Voyeurism- not watching others, but watching you masturbate and cum, being able to watch us.
17. Wax play- I would love to try the massage candles (the ones that when they get hot turn into massage oil) and using the special candles for sex play where the wax won’t get too hot
By knowing exactly what I like/want/need, my Dom is better able to reward, punish, and grow me in this area. As our relationship evolves so will this list.