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The Chimera's Whispers

Musings, whispers, thoughts, opinions, murmurs, and lessons learned from someone returning to the Lifestyle.
3 years ago. November 13, 2020 at 7:13 PM

Afternoon Cage Dwellers.

I've noticed an upsurge in some naughty traits some folks have [and not the fun kind either.]

 

Shall we discuss? And no, this is not aimed at any one person, this is quite a few people I've observed over time be it on this site, or on others.

 

Passive aggressiveness is a big one. 

I have 0 tolerance for it. Passive aggressive actions/words only really serve to cause more trouble and stir the pot, but it tells me you don't have the spine to talk to me like an adult and tell me flatly you either have an issue, or you just don't like me. Trying to make snide little comments, or actions will only serve in meeting my silver tongue in a lashing, or just getting outright ignored.

It's quite alright if you don't like me. I didn't come to this site expecting everyone to be buddies with me.

I speak my mind, I'll call things as I see it, I'm confrontational, and I know I can be abrasive.

Not everyone likes nor handles that well.

But there's no need to act like an invertebrate around me. [Spineless. I'm calling you Spineless. Grow a goddamn backbone.]

 

I also have a low to no tolerance for willfully stupid people either. When I say this, I don't mean someone who is ignorant. There's a difference between ignorance and stupidity in my opinion. Ignorance, there's the chance to learn and grow. You can't know what you've never learned about.

Willful stupidity is more along the lines of shutting off the will to learn or grow, the incessant need to talk out of your assend just to hear [or read] yourself speaking. There's a refusal to stop, observe, or consider what's around, what's said, or what's happening.

Like I said. Willful stupidity. It's obnoxious and only shows how uneducated/uninformed you are...

 

One of the other traits I've noticed is compulsive lying.

I pride myself on actively listening to others. I observe and watch a lot. I've caught a few people mid-lie about different things. Not even big lies either: like saying they're single to a potential submissive they're interested in [when they told me they were married 2 weeks prior], but stupid little frivolous things. Like owning 3 cars one day when I had saw that person bemoaning their car was dead and they own no other vehicles to use a few days later...

Why lie? Just doesn't make sense. It doesn't make you look better, it doesn't benefit you, it doesn't provide any benefit to you or the other person. (Granted using lies for those things is still equally wrong.)  and commonly if someone will lie about small things, they'll lie about important things.

 

And a final one is childish behavior.
"Chimera, you're immature yourself..."
Notice I didn't say "Immaturity" in general. I more mean childish behavior such as leaving snide comments in historical blogposts you had to burrow into my history to comment on, deliberately trying to start issues with others, trying to spread rumors about others, or playground antics of base name-calling.

Sorry, I'm not here to babysit, or re-enact "Mean Girls" with anyone.

 

 

If you have a habit of these traits, chances are we're not going to get along and you're not going to like me much.


 Usually, (even if I dislike someone) I'll generally try to be polite, civil, and leave that other person be.  It's when you bring those traits directly to me or push me do I really go off.

 

What are some naughty traits you all have found in your ventures? I'm curious to see what others have encountered.

Morley​(sub female){Max Sterne} - I love everything about this and agree 100%..... I was having a conversation with someone this morning saying how I truly hate when someone misrepresents them selves... It's just like lying. Don't come off as something you're not or don't know about like you do! Fucking nerve wrecking.
3 years ago
TheChimera​(sub female) - Precisely!!!!
3 years ago
HGB​(sub female){Scottish M} - Great blog.
3 years ago
TheChimera​(sub female) - Thank you~
3 years ago
SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - Rotfl! First, the blog is great...second, the reason I'm laughing is the meme! I posted the video that came from not long ago! It's a riot!!!
3 years ago
TheChimera​(sub female) - Oh yeah, that lady is a trip!

"Then the smoke got me-- I got Bronchitis! Ain't nobody got time for dat!"
3 years ago
SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - Rotfl!!!!
3 years ago
Mama Bear JJ​(dom female){koa} - All of the above and throw in choosing imitation over being just being yourself. I get if who someone is isn’t working for them, but I don’t know, maybe they should actually work on the reasons for that instead of pretending to be someone else who shit is working for 🤔
3 years ago
TheChimera​(sub female) - Oh wow, I've been fortunate in not finding impersonators, but it still falls into the category of liars.

That sucks you've experienced those kinds of folks D:
3 years ago
Mama Bear JJ​(dom female){koa} - Yeah ... normally imitation would be flattery and all that, but when it is words and things specifically related to your journey and who you are as a person, it feels more like who you are and who you have worked so hard to be is being stolen ... someone taking a fake ass shortcut instead of doing the work themselves. And yep, definitely falls under lying when it doesn’t truly reflect who they are or where they are at.
3 years ago
TheChimera​(sub female) - Ohh man naw, if it's my personal experiences and stuff being stolen- then I'd be so angry. Holy cow. I can't even fathom that one..
3 years ago
BookishBabyGirl - I am surprised though I should not be for human are pretty crappy in general but I know what drew me to this lifestyle was its authenticity. I could be me and honest about my desires, needs and gifts. That is some crazy shit. I am sorry it has happened to you. Some folks confuse submissive with dumb and passive.
3 years ago
TheChimera​(sub female) - Well, just to be clear too. I wouldn't say these things happened TO me. It's things I've witnessed and seen, be it directed at me, or just in passing~ Still traits I dislike no less.
3 years ago
My Dear{Trust} - Liars are at the tippy-top of my list along with passive aggression, and people who act like they know it all.
One of the things that has lately bothered me most is this assumption by some people that because I don't shame their kink I agree with it and should be not just a witness but a participant. Assumptive Forced Kink - yep, that's going to be my name for it when it happens.
3 years ago

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