Honor is important in DM/sf relationships as it is the foundation of the dominant man's power. As I've written many times before, I am not an advocate of control by coercion, subterfuge or force. I advocate a positive dominance via respect, persuasion and honor.
So, what is the essence of honor?
There are four definitions of the word honor, two as nouns and two as verbs, that are relevant here.
Nouns:
1: high respect, esteem. "His portrait hangs in the place of honor"
2: a privilege. "The great poet of whom it is my honor to speak tonight"
Verbs:
3: regard with great respect. "Joyce has now learned to honor her father's memory."
4: fulfill an obligation or keep an agreement. "Make sure the franchisees honor the terms of the contract"
When a dominant man is honored by his submissive woman, all four of these become apparent:
His Place Of Honor - He holds a position of honor, a place that is distinct from the man who is not honored by a submissive woman. With this position come obligations and responsibilities that, should he fail them, will see him fall from that place of honor.
His Privilege - The privilege afforded the DM is one of access to and control over the sf. She wants him to take the lead as much as he wants to lead her. This is not his god-given right as a dominant man. It is a privilege that is only extended because of his honor (noun) and her honoring (verb) of him.
Respectful Regard - In his place of honor, the submissive bestows a respectful regard for the dominant and wishes to become devoted and loyal to such an honorable man.
Obligation Fulfilled - The advantage of his position, privilege and respect is that the dominant man can expect his submissive woman to fulfill the obligation of their agreement. This is the reward of being honorable. It doesn't matter what their arrangement is, only that she honor their agreement by fulfilling her obligation and keeping her agreement or promise.
I'm sure this all sounds great to most men:
Hold a position of distinction, power and honor.
Obtain certain privileges as a result of that position.
Be respected by his woman and likely her associates.
Have promises, agreements and obligations to him fulfilled.
Great. How do you get that?
By Being Honorable!
Okay, let's look at the definitions of honorable:
1: deserving of honor
2: of great renown : illustrious
3: entitled to honor
4: attesting to creditable conduct
5: consistent with an untarnished reputation
6: characterized by integrity
These are a bit circular but they all all hint at what is, to me, the two essential components of being honorable:
1. An unswerving dedication to the truth.
2. Reliably consistent action commensurate with agreements and obligations.
All other character traits of the positively dominant man emanate from these two aspects:
authenticity - knowing and speaking the truth about oneself
integrity - when we seek the truth and seek to act in accordance with it, we maintain our integrity; there can be no guile, incongruence or self-deceit when we are internally honest and our external behavior is commensurate with that inner truth.
self-control - knowing the truth about yourself and consistently taking action to ensure one is in accordance with agreements and obligations is the definition of self-control
trustworthy - the essence of being trustworthy is consistent action according to stated agreements
repentant - being dedicated to the truth means accepting one's limitations and errors and taking action to recompense damages done
considerate - to know the truth of his woman and act in a consistent and commensurate way is to be considerate and seek what is best for her
calm - when we ascribe to the truth and consistently take action we are in integrity with ourselves which produces a state of calmness because we are not warring with ourselves due to the incongruences in our character
I could go on listing many other qualities and relating them back to those essential two, but the point is to remind us about the essence of honor:
if you want to get the wonderful benefits of being honored by a submissive woman then you have to be an honorably dominant man and that is achieved by constantly striving towards finding and knowing the truth while also keeping your actions consistent with your words.
This isn't rocket science and it isn't new. But it is a reminder far too many men need these days.
-SirRender (on another site)
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