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Rose's Thorns.

A general pondering.
5 years ago. July 29, 2018 at 1:44 AM

Dating is difficult at the best of times but somehow only the creeps seem to be around, where have all the men gone ? The ones who want to have a conversation with you for at least 10min before asking you back to there place? (being sarcastic) and thats the polite verson of what is said. The guys who dance with you for one song then expect you to fuck them. The 'nice guy' who like to think he is supportive and nice as long as its only on his terms otherwise your judged to no end. Feel like smacking my head against a wall. The ones who are being genourus and are kind enough to buy you a few drinks as they try to get you hammered with alcohol. How the fuck is someone meant to find anyone decent, you have to go through so much crap as a woman to find someone and when the relationship doesnt work you know you have to go back out into single girl armagedon. It would be lovely to be able to go for a drink in a bar on your own and feel safe. Really trying hard to not cave in and just drink so much that i dont care where i wake up the next day or who im with as its one of the few ways i can let anyone near me outside D/s style especially when there is no interest in putting the time or effort it, is that all women are worth now? Beacuse continuing to wade through single girl armagedon and try to look after myself or cave and get so drunk i wont care or remember the second one is becoming more and more appealing. Im trying my best not to tho. x 

There is a difference between calling a woman beautiful because you like her perosnality looks and manner and saying she is beautiful to just fuck her and go onto the next one and yes speaking on behalve of women its obvious mainly as your not looking at us in the face as you complement us!

If you doubt what i am saying then i suggest asking a woman friend what are the worst mesages she has recived on a dating profile.

Not being able to be touched unless its with someone i trust a lot like D/s style months of knowing each other or plyed with alchol is hard with how things work today especially with the last one not an option. 

Things can play on your mind which doesnt help. I once had someone say after i had been unwell that they couldn never see me as attractive ever again 😡 its stupid how your brain works sometimes. Becuase even with finding it difficult to be close with someone if i manage that, my stupid sub brain now worries about bothering someone so much if i am unwell that it sticks with them. 

Isla - YES! I was reading this and had a lightbulb moment. I had a professor in college (waaaaay before I had realized I was submissive.... or even had lost my virginity for that matter) and all I could think about in class was wanting to be on my knees giving him a blow job! And I had never even given one at that point! I just felt so drawn to his dominance and presence; I just wanted to serve him and it literally just clicked for me that this is your situation you’re describing!
5 years ago
rosethorn​(sub female) - It is, thank you for taking the time to read, its hard but difficult to describe when you don't have that there. x
5 years ago
hunter​(dom male) - Hello Rose,

I wanted to say categorically that not all men are like this and indeed the ones who dont go to clubs are usually the ones who aren't looking for your physical attributes alone, such as the professor mentioned above.

I think you cannot expect much from guys who seek so little, but rather look around you at the men in your life who aren't necessarily, in your view sexual, but who are both dominant and respectful.

There is a great set of articles to read here.. https://submissiveguide.com
This may help you to redefine the kind of guys you are actually looking for and I would start by stopping going to clubs to find them, it's mainly boys, not men that need such places to define their masculinity.

Go look for a quiet guy, whose thoughful and you may find a well read doninant who is biding his time for the girl who makes it clear she wants to be his.

Just my thoughts and 2 cents worth

Hope it helps

Hunter
5 years ago
rosethorn​(sub female) - Thank you, its not about redefining what Im looking for, I know what I want and as I mention above that's not it, I don't go clubbing as such ect, it seems to be the culture in general here which is a shame, if you do find someone decent when it goes bad, its a lot more tempting to stay than leave as your faced with this. Things seem to have changed a lot from the last time I was single, I still love BDSM compared to vanilla and the above is one of the reasons as the culture is very different. I don't lower my standards, but it would be nice recently to go on a first date and for sex or groping to not be expected by the guy, just a shame. People even seem to not bother with the dating part at all now, with dick pics all over the place. :) Thank you for your advice and taking the time to read xx
5 years ago
rosethorn​(sub female) - its a shame people don't take the time to get to know each other anymore.
5 years ago

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