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The greatest fear one can have is not fitting in but the greats achievement is not giving a damn if you don't
2 years ago. May 31, 2021 at 2:21 PM

There's always the feeling of being tamed by a dom but what if, being the crazy-ass bratty submissive I am may cause his patience to run out? It has always been on my mind. I am an exhibitionist at heart and I enjoy showing off how sexy and curvy I am. But then I question myself whether I am good enough for his love or will he be honest with me? Those thoughts always run in my mind. The craziest part is, it's hard to get a man to have a decent conversation without mentioning how good I look. Would like to have a decent conversation for once. What can a woman do to get one? 

 

p.s. I experience this outside of here. Off the net 

K y i v - As simple as dont show what you look like till after you chat...
2 years ago
rebeltoya​(sub female) - thanks will keep
that in mind
2 years ago
McNelly​(sub female){Not lookin} - Ha what don’t take that shit. Every single person deserves a quality connection regardless of how they look. I deal with the shit 24/7 at work it’s exhausting. The proper reaction to “damn girl you lookin so fucking fine” is “I know I look good I did see my reflection today.” Two thing are going to happen. That man is going to realize that you don’t need to be validated but his complement. Then he’s either going to leave you alone because he’s trash and he knows that you are not going to be obsessed with him just because he called you sexy. Or he’s gonna think damn she knows who she is, she has self worth and value I should pay attention to her and invest time in her because if she thinks she is valuable I think she’s valuable. There is more there than just the pretty face, she knows she’s pretty but she’s not hyper focused on it so it’s not her best quality. Then what is her best quality? They are gonna wanna find out.
2 years ago
Eunoia​(sub female) - I read two different things here. As far as the bratty thing making his patience run thin.. as long as you’re up front and tell him that’s how you are then it shouldn’t be a problem because he knew beforehand. As far as the picture thing.. don’t show your pics to everyone. Few people here know what I look like and that’s because I get the same thing you’re talking about all the time. So if you have a nice conversation FIRST then the looks will only be the cherry on top :) good luck
2 years ago
rebeltoya​(sub female) - thanks . i don't show my face on here . i meant outside the cage .
2 years ago
Eunoia​(sub female) - I see. Well just know the right man will not only take your looks into consideration. If they’re anything less than the right one, move on. You will know when you’ve found **him** <3
2 years ago
JustGreenie{Lona Alofa} - Be a mystery to him. Let him know the inside before introducing him to the outside. Put a little mystery in getting to know you completely before unveiling the prize.
2 years ago
OraclePollon​(sub female){NotYours} - Maybe someone gets inpatient with you, but on the other side, there are people getting bored with those of us who aren't outgoing or exhibitionary and that is a thought that plagues our mind. Try not to be enough or too much or anything for someone else. Silence that voice inside yourself and you cans Hine your best light.

As far as presenting. I am a recluse for a lot of those reasons, people who cant help but say you look amazing everytime I talk to them, get superficial really fast. But there are people out there who will see beyond it, we just only see the ones who say it, not the ones admiring from afar. Try and look beyond what is right in front of you. (Not saying you aren't. Just the voices we don't want to hear are always the loudest).
2 years ago
SageFlame​(sub female) - Places
Location
Events

Choose them in mind with the type of conversation you wish to have. If I were looking around these would be my choices:

-Sequoia Club
-Hiking meet ups with men and women
-Book stores and libraries
-Lectures offered by local colleges to the community
-Volunteering in community
- Live music venues ( quaint not concert)
- dog parks ( you can tell a lot about a person by how they interact with their pets)
-Stage theater auditions

Not that any of these would be to your liking. Just to give example of places, etc. Choose places that interest you. Choose events that cultivate you; conversation is more natural this way.

You can always find a guy at the gym but most wouldn't have conversation on their mind so . . .

2 years ago

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