You never know how much freedom you don’t have, until you suddenly have it, then looking back you can see how much you were restricted and how it affected you. They say hindsight is 50/50, however I believe it is more than that. I think that when you look back upon the past you see more clearly on events than you would see them if they were current because you had time to reflect. The more time that goes into digging into them, analyzing the situation and peeling apart the layers like an onion, while it may be painful and uncomfortable, can also be eye opening and life changing.
Recently had a major life change with moving into my own apartment so that I at long last have my own independent freedom. This has been a long time coming since being discharged from the military. It just so happens at the same time one of my pups on the East Coast got a great opportunity to come live out here too so now almost all of my pack is in Colorado. I am only missing 3 now. One is scheduled to come soon, the other two we are working on a plan to move when it is possible. But living in my own apartment means I can wake up in the middle of the night and get food without waking anyone up or making dogs bark. I can wake up at 5 am to go for a run and not have to explain my reasoning for it. I no longer have to explain anything I am doing about where I am going, what I am doing or why.
We are finally free to be who we are and not have to worry about what others think of us. Our system is able to be free and safe for the first time and not worry about who might be around to judge us or get upset. We don’t have to fake who we are anymore and can be who we really are with the support of those who know about us and care. Having the pup pack and subs is good because they are supportive and a second family to turn to and there when the help is needed or wanted. They are chosen family and that is worth more than anything else in the world because you know you can count on the ones you choose to be family, versus the ones you are born into that might not be so understanding or that have a certain mindset or standards they expect you to follow and when you don’t, they become disappointed in you. Our community grows strong through the bonds and connections we choose to make ourselves So always remember that when you are upset because the family you were born with is upsetting you, you have a kink family with you that is chosen that loves you and supports you for who you are truly always.