Hello Cage friends,
As a dominant I am looking to craft my own little world. I am looking to find the pieces that are lacking and improve upon them. I want to create my own space, my own world, my own universe. Now I'm not God, I am all too human. But as a Dominant I wish to create my ideal property, I want to form and shape my reality.
I have been considering the house I want to live in. How many rooms should it have? Which one will become sound proofed? How do I desire the layout of my perfect home to look like? What should that include? Would there be a large yard? Would it be close to neighbors or would it be secluded? There are so many considerations. I like where I currently live but there are so many ways I desire something just a little different. In many ways finding a space that I can craft my perfect home in, exactly how I see it, almost like a blank slate to do what I want with. To make it fit perfectly into my life.
Part of creating something to fit perfectly into your life begins with knowing yourself. Its about knowing your Will. Understanding your needs. Its about shaping your reality around those aspects of the fundamental parts of yourself. Finding ways to make your space work for and with you. I have had lots of different ideas on how to make this happen, but its also about finding the property with the bones and framework set up to make those concepts reality. If the framework for the house has been set, and it doesnt work with the concepts you have in mind then in order to make that property perfection you have to destroy everything and create it brand new from scratch. Where as if you find a home that already fits the concepts it just requires some renovations to form that property into exactly what you are looking for.
Now, these concepts all apply to your s type.
Consider a dynamic where you feel forced, like every aspect of the interaction requires tremendous energy to move forward because you are not aligned. You have radically different views on what submission looks like, what dominance should entail. Now dont get me wrong, two people with different perspectives can still be a match. It can be very beneficial to have differing viewpoints creating different perspectives so you gain a more complete view of the situation. But when each aspect of who you are as a Dominant, and your prospective submissive clash then trying to move the collective dynamic is like trudging through quick sand. It is the house with the framework that doesnt fit your concepts. It takes massive work to start from scratch and try to build something from the ground up. Now in a sense building from absolute ground zero can be quite prosperous. You get to make every tiny detail exactly to your specifications. But this requires immense effort, patience and time. Well any worthwhile dynamic will have those components. These are quite essential in my humble opinion. I guess the point I'm attempting to make is that you can make a dynamic work but if you dont have anything in common, your desires are different and your opinions clash, if there is no commonality between the two (or more) of you then it becomes much more difficult to create a healthy thriving dynamic that fits all parties involved.
When I "met" The Velveteen Slave I knew immediately that she was someone worth my time. Yet I didnt fully comprehend just exactly how well we would meet each other. As we've spent each day conversing and spending time together we are slowly realizing from both sides how well we meet and fit for each other. We are both weird yet our weird is impeccable together. More and more, day by day we grow closer and the deeper we walk into each others space the more we realize how our needs line up. Just the other day the comment was made "how have we not realized these things (intrinsic needs we both share) about each other until now? How did it take this long to know each other in this way?" The thing is it takes time to build trust between people. It takes dedication and showing up consistently to earn that place within the others mind. You dont get a free pass, you should have to prove yourself in some way to earn the reward of that trust. Sometimes that reward is a sacred piece of information that only you hold, or getting to understand your girl in a way no one else understands her. Perhaps its having the revelation of a new aspect of the nature of her character, or a new area of play you are now both comfortable attempting because trust has been formed.
Regardless of how well you meet each other though there will always be some work that needs to be done. There should be a future goal of aspiration and forward momentum. No matter how well the bones and framework of the house meet the expectations for your future vision, for the concepts you envision there will be renovations and adjustments that are required.
When I met my slave I had no idea who she truly was, I had no idea what she looked like, I had no real idea of anything. Yet I was drawn to her. I felt the intense connection of how she met me in the small and big ways. More importantly I met her needs, but I didnt know it when we first began talking. It wasnt until over a year later that I began to see more and more how we perfectly meld together. See, I believe in the process of shaping and molding my girl. She is a diamond. She is beautiful and strong. I believe though that altering the physical aspects of who she is to be a much easier process than altering the mental. I mean her true nature of the quality of her character has been ingrained since she was born. The trials and tribulations shes had to overcome and walk through. The trauma and discomfort, the pain and sorrow shes born witness to. How shes handled herself and grown has been predetermined in a sense. I see the quality of her character and I am damn proud of who she is, how she acts, the ways she cares for those around her. She amazes me everyday. Its much more difficult to change the nature of someone. That said though, if it is important by diligent action, consistent discipline, creating a solid well thought out plan can help shift and mold and shape the form of her nature. I'm damn fortunate though that her nature fits perfectly with mine. I only need to help create a safe space such that I can help embolden the aspects of her character that she hides to protect herself. I want to pull at the spaces she feels uncomfortable expressing, I want her to know that I will hold a space for her without judgement for all aspects of who she is. Really to me shaping the physical form takes diligent effort, but anyone can accomplish that. Its building a routine thats healthy and sticking to it. But learning how to create a safe space such that she trusts my hands to mold her into exactly as I desire and will her. That takes true dedication. I want to see those hidden parts of her poke their head out and become embraced by my Dominant. That is truly worth my time and effort, and when you see the results and work towards a collective goal you both desire thats the true beauty of a dynamic.
Ive been working at shaping my girls mind, I have been delving deeper into her true nature and I adore all that I see. I am immensely grateful to her and her continued support. That she knows and is learning how to exist quietly for me when I'm angry and frustrated. That she gives me space to be angry is a tremendous thing for me because Ive never known how to appropriately hold my anger. Its been a challenging process, one I struggle in more often than not. Yet she remains by my side. She remains faithful. She has told me countless times how even when I'm frustrated and pissed off that she still trusts me and would gladly kneel beside or in front of me, even in my anger. It makes my heart overjoyed to know how deeply she trusts me, and to see further growth in that trust each day is amazing and stupendous.
We still have so much to learn about each other. We still have so much room for growth, but we have both come a hell of a long way. I cant wait to see whats around the corner for us, and I am excited for the future that I am shaping and molding her for. I know she will serve me to the best of her ability each and every day. Of course there is a bit of leeway here, as days shes sick or emotionally scattered it will become more challenging to serve. But sometimes the way you serve is simply allow yourself to be taken care of. Or kneeling in silence. Quiet support. Active participation. It all depends on the day, your mental well being and where you are at emotionally and physically. But I know she will do everything in her power to serve me with diligence, she will honour me in each moment. She will make me a focus of her life, and I am grateful that her focus on me helps motivate and inspire her to greater heights.
Thank you to those who have taken the time to read my words today. I hope something about our journey sticks in your mind, or helps you navigate your own journey. I hope you all have an excellent day.
