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Rose's Thorns.

A general pondering.
5 years ago. October 13, 2018 at 6:11 PM

Trying to find someone who 'gets' you is a difficult thing to do anyway, when your into this lifestyle for some reason all the idiots suddenly think your litterally a fuck toy. I cant wait for the next person to come along and actually know who i am as a person. This isnt what BDSM is about if you feeling 'lonely' which seems to be guy code for horny ??? Then go and watch some porn, im not here to make you feel better, im a human being and a person not a fuck toy. There are so many fakes out there, i miss being with someone who actually knows me as a person, not messages me with 'are you free can i come over ?' because then want to get laid, then when i say no has a temper tantrum as i mentioned im not doing anything... Just becuse im not doing anything doesnt mean im free for you. Im entitled to have my own space and time to myself (It is 2018 right ?) I actually used the phrase 'my life doesnt revolve around your dick...' I NEVER thought i would ever have said this sentance. Do Doms have similar issues when trying to find subs ? 

Putting across that im making you 'beg' like a dog because i said no.... Your an adult man and have fee will... your choosing to ask constantly instead of acepting NO as an answer, that isnt my issue or problem, its yours. Your the one choosing to beg and constantly ask guess what ? if you acepted my awnswer NO then you wouldnt be 'begging' facepalm logic at its best. Saying im making you beg is just a way to excuse yourself for your own behaviour as you dont like it, pushing it onto someone else as its there responsibility and there fault makes it easier right ? ....

I am a sub not a door mat, im also a person a human and have my own life and free will. 

Dom's is this how things are for you ? is this something you also experiance ?

rex douglas​(dom male) - Yes.
5 years ago
rosethorn​(sub female) - At least im not alone then. x
5 years ago
rex douglas​(dom male) - A million people and the word lonesome.
5 years ago
PaNdEmIc - As a Dom that has a collared sub, That I have been married to for the past 16 almost 17 years, I've experienced all manner of subs wanting me to take them under my "wing" so to speak. I have taken on a second sub a time or two, but mostly it's just mentoring. I enjoy mentoring subs. But even that...has its annoyances. Most of what I get..are "new" subs that either genuinely have no knowledge and are seriously seeking information and direction or the subs that have been a closet "kinkster" with a guy just looking for sex and immediately think they know all and are wanting to submit to me within 5 minutes of conversation. After I explain to them, that's not how it works...they quickly lose interest. Which is probably best for them. Now, with that said. I know submissive women have it ALOT worse than any Dom would. Alot of "wannabe" fake doms see they are submissive and just because the list themselves as a dom, suddenly they think they are the master of all women. They dont have the first clue what it means to actually be a Dom. They are after 1 thing and 1 thing only. They come into the conversation immediately speaking to the submissive as if they already own them, spouting out demands, insisting on nude photos, and havent even considered the fact they have no idea what they are doing. So, to answer the question. Yes it happens to Doms, but nowhere near as often as it happens to submissives. And I truly feel for the subs that have to deal with that BS.
5 years ago
rosethorn​(sub female) - It seems to be a lack of knowledge and insight for both sides of the coin then, its lovely to hear you have been together so long and are happy xx. Just seeing the other person as a human being instead of a fuck toy (pls excuse my language) would go a long way.
5 years ago

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