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Some Tips For Polite Conduct On THE CAGE

By Evangeline​(staff)     11/08/2017 2696
If you've spent more than a hot minute exploring BDSM online chances are you've met plenty of scammers, fakes, trolls, and plain old not so nice people. Rudeness can be found everywhere online (and off), but anything to do with sex or fetish seems to take incivility to a new level. But that's not the way we are doing it here at THE CAGE.

With the help of our community we're working hard to make THE CAGE an exceptional experience, filled with friendly, considerate, and authentic people who have a sincere interest in BDSM. Whether you're new to the community or an established member, it's a good idea to make sure you've read our Community Standards and Terms Of Service, which you'll find on the bottom of each page of our website:

It's also a good idea to take a look at our "Let's Get You Started" magazine article, which has some good links for the novice and the experienced practitioner alike.

Besides that, it's good to keep these few points in mind:

-unless you've negotiated it, name calling and humiliation is NOT okay, not in chat, not in private mails, not in BOND, our instant messenger. Not everyone in to BDSM enjoys it and you shouldn't assume they do.

-heated conversations and debates are all welcome and encouraged, but make sure to attack an opinion, not a person.

-you're welcome to put nude and kinky photos in your profile and blog, but don't send them unsolicited to other members. Not everyone wants to see it and no one should be forced to see it.

-don't expect submissives to treat you in a certain way just because you identify as dominant. All D/s dynamics need to be negotiated and agreed to by all parties involved.

-don't ask others for money or gifts and don't promote your business.

-use extreme caution before sending out personal information and photos. Remember, once it's out there, it's out there.

If a member violates our rules or is rude or abusive, take a screenshot of the conversation and report it. Although we are not able to make sure everyone gets along and we aren't able to mediate disagreements, we will remove individuals who repeatedly ignore our rules or demonstrate a lack of civility towards others.

With your help we hope to continue to build our community in to a welcoming and intelligent adult environment in which we can all learn, share our knowledge, and find support. To those of you working hard to support others and to welcome new users, we sincerely thank you. We truly couldn't do this with out you.

See you inside THE CAGE!

The Cage Staff

KnottyBear​(other female)
Just want to thank everyone that makes the cage what it is. I’ve been on other community sites, and this by far is the most mature one I’ve been on. I’ve met some great people on here. Thank you for all you do. Jenn
11/08/2017 00:03
That's great to hear! Thanks for being here Jenn! We appreciate your support :)
11/08/2017 13:01
I’ve been lucky enough (from the sounds of it) that this was my first experience with a BDSM site, and I love it. Thank you so much Evangeline and Assaf for the time and effort that you both put in to making this such a great place for us ?
11/09/2017 13:45
Thank you for the support Bunnie!
11/10/2017 12:54
evergrey​(sub female){Ashigeru}
Excellent! Succinctly put! Thank you. :}
11/19/2017 12:29
John Gonder
Iam a new member but I did some research on here and so far everythings points to the kind of place I like to be included in.
11/24/2017 03:02
DomDaddyNor​(dom male)
I'm new to this site. It's at a good starting point but it needs plenty of work it has by the looks of it very few active members and offers little that fetlife or bigger sites and forums doesn't already have. Hopefully going paid will make people register with a phone number or some other kind of info so multiple accounts isn't possible. Keep up the good work I'm sure this site will be a great place with time.
11/25/2017 19:43
1crazygirl​(sub female){unowned/si}
Liking the work that has so far been put in to this site....I like that it feels educational and friendly at the same time:);):);)!!!
05/24/2018 18:11
FabSeverus​(dom male)
like this kind of messages for example : Miki​(masochist female) Re:Comment 07/29/2018 20:15 But you ARE an asshole, Jack. One and only warning:. Do NOT write to me again or your profile WILL be the one to "disappear" and a LOT sooner than a couple weeks.
07/29/2018 23:56
Bad Girl Vip​(switch female){no}
Thank you to everyone that makes thecageco. Possible.?
08/09/2018 08:17
Bosoxer​(dom male)
I have to say, in the short time I've been here the community has been very welcoming. Just a heads up, the link to 'THE CAGE - Community Standards' is broken. The other link works just fine though.
09/03/2018 00:28
@Bosoxer, it seems to work for me. Please message me the link you are having issues with when you have a sec. And glad to hear you've been having a good time here!
09/24/2018 20:27