ABCBDSM: Let's Play!

AKittenforSir​(sub female){JohnBond} • Jul 18, 2019

H: Hard Limit
It means “hell no, I absolutely will not do this thing under any circumstance so don’t even ask”.

No Body​(dom male) • Jul 19, 2019

K ... k is for kinky

Kinky is a word used for people who like to use the chicken feather and not the whole chicken. We like to tie our loved ones up and make them have religious experiences while we play with their body. No is a word we hear a lot but rarely think about when our loved ones are calling on God to give them the strength they need to survive another orgasim. (unlike the tv show 8 is not enough) Kinky is also a word used by first timers when they want to try out BDSM with us unlike fucking freak when we get through using them ...... but they call back when the marks are gone.

ropefish • Jul 19, 2019

We skipped I! I is for Impact! I don't have much to say about it because I don't do it often, hahaha, anyone got an anecdote for impact?

Soulweaver​(dom male) • Jul 23, 2019

Hard Limit

Something a person will NOT do. Non-negotiable. This applies equally to both D and s types. In my opinion, once a hard limit(s) has been established it is best filed away and not even brought up. However, in very rare circumstances a persons stance on a hard limit may change over time. In those rare cases, the hard limit setter should be the one to broach the subject, imo.

For example, my previous submissive had a hard limit that involved choking and/or breath play. Two or three years into our relationship, she came to me and said that something she had seen, had her rethinking her position on choking. So we discussed it a lot (her choice) and eventually, we worked up to a hand on her throat. While it was a firm hand, it never totally constricted her ability to breathe and was more of a "suggestion" of such. All I can add was that she was VERY glad she chose to reconsider her opinion (according to her), as her orgasms were SO intense during this, that it was almost unbelievable. Experiences such as this, are the exception not the rule. Hard limits should NOT be violated and exist for valid reasons.

A common hard limit seen in profiles, mine included, is "illegal activities." But what exactly does that entail? Well, for me "illegal activities" means anything that a person would be arrested for, such as prostitution, bestiality, non-consensual abuse, extortion, selling pornography, stalking, rape (as opposed to CNC), kidnapping, etc. Until 1963, sodomy was illegal in all 50 States and in fact after 1963, some States still kept homosexual sodomy illegal, while others kept both heterosexual and homosexual sodomy illegal. In 2003, in a landmark case, Lawrence v. Texas SCOTUS ruled that American laws prohibiting private homosexual activity between consenting adults are unconstitutional. While some States chose to keep their laws on the books, it would be unconstitutional to charge someone with sodomy.

EDIT: Damn y'all are quick.....but I spent too much time, I ain't deleting this! LOL

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} • Nov 3, 2019

We also forgot 'J'...

Jute

From what I hear, its a type of rope used in rope play.

Pirate Queen • Nov 4, 2019

L is for Leather. Lots of people in the community also have a passion for leather. To wear it, to make use of it in toys. Possibly because it is one of the oldest and most versatile materials used in clothing and with regard to animals as in harnesses, crops, etc. It is a very tactile and sensual material that also has an earthy smell to it that provides lots of stimulation in various ways.

PHXDom​(dom male) • Nov 9, 2019

M: Masochist

A person that associates pain, usually to a greater degree, with sexual pleasure. Such a person might seek out a sadist who will take pleasure in administering the pain. The masochist's reward might focus on the pain and resulting sexual pleasure itself, rather than anything to do with the connection to the other person that they are interacting with. The pain doesn't always have to be physical--in some instances it might be mental or emotional:

Masochist: "Hurt me!"
Sadist: "No!"

Duke Montefort​(dom male) • Nov 10, 2019

N: Nylons

A submissive with a fetish for nylons generally rubs and masturbates to the feel of his mistresses nylons.

SSG{ENM-TLP} • Nov 10, 2019

O: Orgasm

The most incredible experience that happens when stimulation of some description reaches a point of climax and shoots unbelievable shock waves throughout the body and in some cases yummy fluid into a mouth or inside an anus or vagina, or wasteful, though fun and exciting all over the body of a partner (and many other places truly wasteful such as a sock, towel, the floor, steering wheel, or condom). Orgasms can be self-induced and even initiated through a verbal command given the right degree of submission and trust, though most are provided as a result of an amazing connection between people through oral, vaginal or anal intercourse.

Duke Montefort​(dom male) • Nov 10, 2019

P: Paddle

A object used to discipline a naughty sub.