11 months ago • 04/28/2019 8:40 pm
Bianca15(switch female) • 04/28/2019 8:40 pm
So, here's the thing. Punishment of any kind can have some form of fallout. (On another note, this is a bit of frustration for me with traditional dom/sub relationships. I understand the science behind this stuff, and it seems like some others don't, or at least choose to ignore it. It is frustrating for me to know that something is being done in a completely ineffective manner, when there are SO much better ways to accomplish what they are attempting to accomplish. Anyway, that was a semi-random aside.) This punishment in particular, because of the emotions that you fear would be involved (and would it even be a punishment if they weren't?), could result in much more serious fallout. I could almost understand if it was some sort of "fun-ishment". But as actual punishment, if it is as aversive as it would need to be to serve that purpose, I can only see lingering bad feelings resulting from it. That's the beauty of typical punishments, they are meant to be aversive in the moment to change behavior. If the aversive is something that is long lasting, then they damage the relationship, rather than serving their intended purpose.