JohnBond(dom male){Kitten} |
4 years ago •
Oct 2, 2019
4 years ago •
Oct 2, 2019
JohnBond(dom male){Kitten} • Oct 2, 2019
I am inclined to agree with the kitten posting above me. Not everyone is poly.
M/s I would say has a different level of acceptance than D/s for the dominant figure doing “what they wish” I absolutely see the argument in an M/s dynamic that says “you are the slave I am the Master, I’ll do what I will” but even still I would say that any person should exit a relationship if the alternative is unwanted emotional or physical damage. A dynamic, ant dynamic, should have Initial negotiations as well as the forum for someone to speak up. People and circumstances change, if it’s not good for the submissive or slave to remain in their current arrangement they should be supported in their effort to pursue their needs and health. To say that isn’t submitting I think would be unfair and unkind. Yes. You can negotiate and still have truly submitted. PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOUR MENTAL HEALTH! I don’t mean “seek help” I mean, keep it a priority and at the top of your mind during your negotiations and as you continue through your relationship. Everyone has different barriers, triggers, and needs. You can both submit and set your limits. So long as Dom and sub / Master and slave are in agreement, all is well. Additionally it is okay to change your mind. If you are in a serious long term relationship changing limits or relationship terms shouldn’t be taken lightly, and may perfectly justifiably lead to the termination of the relationship (in the same way that it is okay for the bottom to have terms, it is okay for the top. If, for example, you want to convert a previously poly relationship into a monogamous relationship, it is perfectly okay for the other party to say the new relationship terms no longer suit their needs). The bottom line is that it’s okay to not be okay with everything. |
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