Meg(dom female){NotLooking}
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4 years ago •
Jan 14, 2020
4 years ago •
Jan 14, 2020
As DrWakko said, you have to watch out for predatory doms when seeking mentors. As such, I would highly advise you find someone who is not interested in you, sexually, to be your mentor, like a female domme or sub, a male sub, a gay dom, or a male dom who is not looking for new subs: anyone who is more interested in your welfare than in removing your pants.
I would also seek the teachings of several people as opposed to a single mentor, because what one person may teach you as right, may not be right for everyone. Some subs are taught to always refer to any dominant they encounter as Sir or Ma'am, regardless of their relationship to them. Some dominants however find iitles to be presumptive and annoying coming from someone who is not their submissive. Some people believe in an extremely strict protocol for behavior between dominants and submissives, some are more lax about it. One person may emphasize posture, while another may emphasize speech patterns, and another appearance and grooming. It's good to get a well rounded idea of what's going on than to try to mimic one way of thinking. Every D/S dynamic is different, because every couple(thruple, whatever) is different.
Another reason to seek council from many people is to get an idea of who you are as a sub. SUB is a pretty broad umbrella term. Are you a girl who likes to get choked in bed? Are you a girl who likes to shine boots? A housemaid? A warm-blooded sex-doll? A klitten? A little? Do you want to be humiliated and degraded, or are you in need of guidance and reassurance? Pain, or no pain? No one person is going to be interested in everything, and It's a good idea to get to know what you are into, and, just as importantly, what you are NOT into. I could reach you about Shibari, but if you were interested in heavy pain, I'd be of no use to you.
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