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At which age did you realize your submission or Dominance?

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subbottomgoodboy​(sub male){No collar }
6 months ago • 09/23/2020 4:42 am
I was in 6th grade when I realized I was into being submissive, and already fantasized about having the pretty girl who made me wait but snuck out with other boys. I knew I was into Cuckolding way back then. I’m 43 now. Haha
YourHoneyBunny​(sub female)
6 months ago • 10/05/2020 8:20 pm
YourHoneyBunny​(sub female) • 10/05/2020 8:20 pm
I didn't really notice it until I was around 11 or 12 but I've always been drawn to the scenes in movies and books when someone is captured, tied up, or held against their will. When I got older I read a book that was about mistresses in the 1700s. There was one scene where one of them was tied up. This is when I realized that my attraction to being tied up could be applied sexually. I started my research and it's just kept going from there!
AlphaByDay​(sub male)
6 months ago • 10/10/2020 10:01 pm
AlphaByDay​(sub male) • 10/10/2020 10:01 pm
MissMelisandre wrote:
I remember watching Batman on TV. I must have been about 6 years old. There was a scene where Julie Newmar as cat woman ties up batman to a table and toys with him. I thought that was amazing to be able to treat a man like that and I dressed as cat woman for halloween for many years. Then when I started kissing boys in high school I thought of myself as cat woman and liked to pin boys down when i kissed them. I used to straddle them and pin their arms down with my knees so I could slowly kiss them. And things just took off from there!

I can't say if Julie Newmar as Catwoman was my first realization, but it was certainly one of those early indications for me. And Julie is my favorite Catwoman ever, to this day (Ertha Kitt is the runner-up).

From that same era, there was an episode of the original Star Trek where aliens steal Spock's Brain. Kirk, McCoy, and Scotty beam down to rescue / retrieve it and find themselves captured by the mini-dress thigh-boot wearing women of the planet, who outfit the men with belts that deliver shocking pain if the men disobey. Yeah, I knew at a very young age this was my kind of woman.
AlphaByDay​(sub male)
6 months ago • 10/10/2020 10:15 pm

By 5th grade / 10 years old

AlphaByDay​(sub male) • 10/10/2020 10:15 pm
One of my earliest memories is In elementary school, 5th grade: we are out at recess in my Philly public school (a fairly good one), running around like little kids do (mind you, our school yard was asphalt rather than grass). We were playing some crazy game we made up, where we had divided into different roles. Some were running around trying to "capture" the others and take them back to "jail", where one or two were guarding the jail. The rest of us were running around trying not to get caught, or to sneak up and "tag" someone in jail to effect a jailbreak. Well, this girl -- who I thought was the cutest girl in the class -- "caught" me. And with her hand firmly on my upper arm, was marching me back towards the jail. And she said, "I'm going to take you back to jail and throw you in a cell. Then I'm going to put you in a pot of hot boiling oil!"

This girl was in 5th grade!

Obviously being locked in jail, much lest tortured in boiling oil, would not be fun. But I knew I liked this girl very much, and always wished we'd play that game again and she'd capture me again. And I knew I liked girls like her -- whatever that meant (that part I still didn't understand yet).

Alas, I have no idea what became of her. We were in different classes the next year, and different schools after that.
Dromus​(sub male)
6 months ago • 10/12/2020 9:18 pm
Dromus​(sub male) • 10/12/2020 9:18 pm
I realized my submission at age 16. While doing some research about bdsm, I came across a webpage talking about the psychology of kink and how children can develop kinky behaviors at a young age. After reading that, I discovered that I've unwittingly gravitated towards the idea of being submissive ever since I was 8 years old.
Woj​(dom male)
6 months ago • 10/22/2020 3:55 pm
Woj​(dom male) • 10/22/2020 3:55 pm
I had always consider my self as a vanilla. When I was 39 I meet girl who took me to small event. I was amazed how wet different emotions are compare to what I was thinking about it and what I was see in porn. I had opportunity to rig her (I just to be a scout so I now how to tie) and spank her in "public". An wow that was it!