Taramafor(sub male)
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3 years ago •
Dec 2, 2020
3 years ago •
Dec 2, 2020
Actually, no. Personality IS the deciding factor. Some people are simply better then others, regardless of body type. They will treat you better even if they're not your "cup of tea". It's how I ended up bi actually. Made a few people bi myself too. I'm more open minded about it as a result. Among other things.
If we're talking physically then lets not pretend someone that looks like they had their face ran through a cheese grater is attractive. It's important to be realistic. Denial will just make it MORE of a struggle. If you're fat, you're fat. This also raises health concerns. You might not value yourself as a person and fall into depression or/and self loathing/lack of self worth and turn to comfort food. Eating to feel safe to avoid arguments. And yes, these things DO happen. Had an ex like that. Abusive mother.
If people look ugly, they probably have something ugly in their lives. We all do. Some people cope with punching walls (ouch btw). Others turn to comfort food. it is what it is. But it has to be accepted for what it is in order to accept the person. It's wrong to say that there isn't better or worse attraction. Especially when people hate themselves for how they look or/and feel.
That leads to loving someone for who and what they are before change happens. But let's face it. Do you really hug everyone you see, sleep with them and have deep understanding talks? I think we're all selective here. Even I'm no exception to that. It's impossible to be equally attracted to everyone.
Btw, in regards to bi and pansexual. They can go hand in hand. I used to be straight, became bi but seem to be pansexual now? Meh. I try not to label it. I just focus on the people. Annnnd the bodies. They're both important.
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