1 month ago • 02/22/2021 11:40 pm
MisterAshmodai(dom male) • 02/22/2021 11:40 pm
I have seen this a couple of times now, this comment about choosing to be poly, or going poly. It seems like it kind of paints over the reality that whether poly or mono, we are choosing it. The closest any of us comes to naturally being something is the primitive drive to spread out genes, which is logically poly. However, we are not basic beasts, but the currently known apex of cognizance. Our reality is based in our ability to break from nature for pursuits of greater self awareness (or maybe that is our nature, philosophy for another thread). The point is that we are not born mono then transition to poly. We make a choice based on stimuli like in any other situation, and it just so happens that mono is the current fad.
And yes, mono is a fad, as well. The roots of monogamy are based primarily in cold weather survivalism and religious influence, both of which are relatively new to humans (much less life in general), and both of of which are inevitably becoming obsolete.
Poly is not an easy course to pursue, for multiple reasons, but I find it difficult to make a case that it is not mainly problematic because of how we are taught to value ourselves from without and assign negative connotations to what is considered ‘excess’.