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Kara​(sub female){Dark Roast}
8 months ago • 11/25/2020 8:08 pm
Kara​(sub female){Dark Roast} • 11/25/2020 8:08 pm
What dM said. I have been around the block too many times not to have seen the wolves in sheep's clothing go after a sub who doesn't know enough to see through them. You always head to your own side of the slash because they have probably experienced it or at the very least won't act in their best interests. Morley is freaking awesome when it comes to guidance and online situations; alawey knows her stuff and is great with healthy dynamics and protocol issues. Either of those ladies would be absolutely wonderful to talk to. I'm available too, but only if you want blunt and clinical with a possibility of tough love.
8 months ago • 11/25/2020 8:26 pm
dollMaker{SaViDa} • 11/25/2020 8:26 pm
I wont be popular saying this, but posts and blogs like this are often the equivalent, to dripping blood into the pacific, not long before the sharks start circling. There are scum on here (in no way actually a dom) who specialise in pulling along side and acting all caring and the perfect white knight, expert at it, but then abuse. They know how to exploit vulnerability, a sub who has been hurt, and naivety, or ignorance of the bdsm lifestyle.

More advice, don't reply to any pms from doms currently, and Morley can educate you as who is best blocked from the get go.
8 months ago • 11/25/2020 10:13 pm
dollMaker{SaViDa} • 11/25/2020 10:13 pm
Best most suitable mentors are fellow submissives, not dominants.
LongerJohnny​(dom male)
8 months ago • 11/28/2020 12:53 pm
LongerJohnny​(dom male) • 11/28/2020 12:53 pm
Dm I have been telling new subs that exact same thing since before I ever got here. Sometimes it still kinda blows my mind that I see so many profiles like "I'm a new sub and I just need a strong Dom to train me." When I do l give the same advice you did.
Unfortunately there are so many more of the predator types.
But some of us are just Daddies with hero complexes that feel the need to rush in to protect someone who is vulnerable.
I'm happy to say that I have made many sub friends that way.
NoClvrNickname​(sub female){Collared &}
8 months ago • 11/28/2020 10:01 pm
Miki wrote:

I will shoot you a message that doesn't say anything of consequence because I see you're not a premium member and can't send a message without first receiving one.

Ditto this
Flynn Monke
5 months ago • 02/25/2021 1:07 am
Flynn Monke • 02/25/2021 1:07 am
hi I am also new to bdsm, exploring being a sub. any advice on how to connect with a dom?