Punishment Ideas?

Regarding using the forum questions as a method of avoiding responsibility, I can see a very distant connection. It may be in how you are wording it or applying it. I would still say, asking a question in the forum and then using the forum post as justification for applying “whatever” to your dynamic is still sketchy. If someone cannot hold themselves responsible, they might want to consider whether they are ready to be an adult in life. I may not entirely grasp what you’re saying.

As for alleviating guilt: Yes, quite seriously. A Dominant doesn’t want their submissive to suffer unnecessarily. Punishment is allotted according to the behavior and many submissives feel remorse for just what you said. But once they correct the behavior, they shouldn’t suffer emotionally wondering. Taken from a religious perspective, some religions practice confession. A person knows they “sinned”. They can feel sorry, but most people don’t actually hear their deity speaking in their ears. Without direct interaction, they continue to have angst and stomach churn. So they go to confession, where they confess and are told their sins are absolved. Theoretically they walk out with the burden of guilt lifted intent on not doing the “sin” again. This allows them to live their lives guilt free from past incidents. Same implications here. The submissive atones for the behavior intent upon not doing it again. It is the responsibility of the Dominant to ensure the submissive realizes the entirety. You don’t use bad feelings to avoid doing it again. You use the desire not to have those bad feelings to avoid doing it again. The threat of punishments help with behavior correction. The threat of disrespecting the dynamic and how that would make the submissive or even Dominant feel bad helps with the behavior correction (because Dominants also have behaviors that may need to be corrected to ensure a good dynamic).

This is also why a punishment should never be something used for play. If you enjoy it, you’ll just continue to do the action to receive the “fun” punishment. If anything that would reinforce the negative behavior.

As for alleviating guilt, would you prefer to feel guilt for something you did in the first days of your relationship for the rest of your life? Or would you prefer to atone for the incident, feeling secure your Dominant is very happy with your actions, and you continue on without worry about that past incident, intent upon never doing it again if possible? This would be positive reinforcement towards healthy behavior.

Society, crime and punishment is an entirely different topic. That is someone making atonement for their actions against another individual or society at large. But once a person pays for their crime as decided by the courts, they should be able to live within the continuing guidelines of society not feeling guilty for past actions. I’m not saying they have completely paid for their crimes - how do you put a price on murder or even embezzling retirement funds to leave hundreds of people destitute, but according to the laws, if they have paid the penalty prescribed, why do I care if they do or do not feel guilty? I would prefer them to return to society and join in as a contributing member if possible so I don’t have to continue to pay for them.

So breaking one's dominant's rules is different from breaking the rules of a society? No it's not. We make a promise to follow the rules of society in order to be a part of that society and a sub/slave makes a promise to follow agreed upon rules in order to be in the relationship with the dominant. Yes, people should be able to earn forgiveness and move on, but they should always feel remorse for hurting their dominant by breaking the rules they agreed upon.

That feeling of "I don't want to hurt him/her again" keeps people from repeating disobedience.

I look back at the times I've broken my Master's rules and feel bad about it. I'm not twisted up in knots over them, , but when I'm knowingly about to disobey him I remind myself how bad it felt when I have disobeyed and have to decide whether or not it's worth it or justifiable. I don't stop feeling remorse for bad behavior, I just use it to do better.

Why should you care whether or not a criminal felt guilty or not after serving their sentence? If you or someone you love had ever been the victim of a crime you wouldn't be so quick to state that.

Silly moll. I'm not basing it on your age but on how you've been responding and acting on various forum posts, not just this one, and on your blog, which you've been journaling on since your joined at the beginning of 2021. Your years on this planet have apparently not tempered you, and considering you are 23, it would seem you have many, many years ahead of you to learn and fully become you. I don't have to know your life experiences although you have definitely written about many of them extensively since your first post. I regret you never did fully indicate why your extremely liberal and open parents were upset that you chose the Professor. That is part of the story that probably should have been presented. They may have had a good reason, considering how open they are about almost everything else. But that is your story to tell or keep locked away.

No, my comments about your age have entirely to do with how you've been responding to others in forums. And you aren't that hard to profile to be honest. You have presented enough written material to develop a pretty thorough profile. I know several individuals physically younger than you in age but more mature than many who are in their later part of life; just like I am aware of some who are considerably older, yet act the fool as if life experiences didn't exist to teach.

I do wish you well. As for pots and kettles, I enjoy cooking to some great degree. That is how I use pots and kettles.

Off the top of my head

Kneeling on uncooked rice/gravel
Muscle ointment on the nipples
Shaving of the head
Small circles of sandpaper placed inside your bra (if you are allowed to wear one)
Forced to wear frozen underwear
Unpersoned/encased in funiture for a period of time
Applying vinegar or lemon juice to buttcheeks after paddling
Forced to sleep in the bathroom/chained to toilet

I had thought of something else but its a little too extreme to share