TopekaDom(dom male)
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1 week ago •
Feb 4, 2025
A question of philosophy - submissive's journey
So after reading a particular profile, I spend a good deal of the evening pondering a rather new idea:
What if we are doing this wrong. What if instead of doing long term relationships, we should instead be a relay team of Doms moving each submissive along on their journey. Something like a school system where we each teach the submissive a certain subject. Now I can hear the collective sigh and grunts from here. But just run the concept through your little grey cells a bit and see what percolates. Think of it as a thought experiment. |
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fluffypoppet(sub female){Protected}
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1 week ago •
Feb 4, 2025
I don’t have a Dom. But my life is made richer by the Dom friends who care to share their knowledge and help me on my path. It isn’t perhaps the dream, but it is part of being in the community.
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darlingdiana(sub female)
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6 days ago •
Feb 4, 2025
it almost is in the category of mentor or trainer.. with a start and anticipated end.
And a number of Doms- it would exclude physical looks and age if each sub was given to her next teacher with no expectations on either side but learning and “class times”. No one would be without.. To feel it alll and be able to fully open, feel safe enough to submerge in submission- devotion requires an aspect of love and admiration- this coming from one who has not played.. i have been thinking a lot along similar lines- im not so sure love and the lifestyle have any place blending.. for the positive aspects of a dynamic and less emotional wreckage for lack of a better term. Still straightening it out. Great point- Although a profile does not say this as much as all blogs- forums. |
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lambsone
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6 days ago •
Feb 4, 2025
I would be up for it. I would wonder though who would vet the Doms to be sure the sub would be safe with each one she/he/them was turned over to next. Also would a sub dossier go with them so that the next one would know what that particular subs limits/boundaries were? Stuff like that. Would this be in real life or online or both? Etc.
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2 days ago •
Feb 9, 2025
Who vets the Doms, (and subs for that matter) and how might the “training plan” be set up. What kind of “learning activities/subjects” are we talking about.
In the past, subs wanting to learn a specific aspect of the lifestyle would reach out to the trusted leaders within the community to be referred to a “reputable trainer” for a “training session”, with all aspects fully negotiated and agreed to up front and with no sexual or emotional involvement. Some sessions might involve a third trusted person to oversee the training session for the safety of both the trainer and trainee. Sessions were structured to focus on the technical aspects of the specific form of play. Unfortunately I’ve heard of a twisted form of “Dom/sub rotation” happening in some communities where the ratio of Doms/subs is off. Where there are more Doms than subs, the subs use the Doms, tossing them to the curb when they get bored or don’t want to invest the effort to learn, moving on to the next one who strikes their fancy. |
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Heero(dom male)
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1 day ago •
Feb 9, 2025
Re: A question of philosophy - submissive's journey TopekaDom wrote: So after reading a particular profile, I spend a good deal of the evening pondering a rather new idea:
If we're dreaming big of what an ideal world would look like, I would more be up for mandatory educational classes for newbies (of any role) coming into the lifestyle. I think that would be better than cycling through Doms. That is, a similar idea would be appealing to me, but not focused on Doms or subs, but rather education. There are things, for instance, that everyone in kink should know, regardless of roles. And I can think of classes where it would be better for subs to teach.
What if we are doing this wrong. What if instead of doing long term relationships, we should instead be a relay team of Doms moving each submissive along on their journey. Something like a school system where we each teach the submissive a certain subject. Now I can hear the collective sigh and grunts from here. But just run the concept through your little grey cells a bit and see what percolates. Think of it as a thought experiment. There's no one size fits all when it comes to relationships. Some subs want to only be attached to and commanded by one Dom , and I don't think you can force them to have several different Doms in charge of them at different points. But I doubt it could be argued against that we'd be better off if everyone were more educated in general. I was joking with someone the other day about certification programs for kink roles. You wanna call yourself a free use slut specializing in oral service, you gotta pass the test 🤣🤣🤣 |
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