emotional masochism

rosethorn​(sub female) • Dec 5, 2018

Its a little like poker

MasterBear​(other butch) • Dec 6, 2018

I'm confused but enjoying that.

I am reading this to get a better understanding of what emotional masochism means outside of an abusive context.


Thank you all for writing

rosethorn​(sub female) • Dec 6, 2018

I think the difference is for me (as I can only speak for me) very normal situations can be awful, I have a very low sense of self worth it can take 2 hrs of arguments to agree to let someone else pay for dinner before going out (its gotten better) but I think that's the key to it, its around normal situations that you basically weave a power dynamic into

rosethorn​(sub female) • Dec 6, 2018

Im wondering if intellectual masochism comes into it now (not belittling)

MasterBear​(other butch) • Dec 6, 2018

My love says its like being an adrenaline junkie s type.

Creating challenges that put you through your paces.

Like ability for s types.

A genuine need that needs to be done at a certain level.

Like head of servants, partners of politician or military, ppl with high stress level partners.


Is this what you are talking about?

rosethorn​(sub female) • Dec 6, 2018

yes *goes red.

MasterBear​(other butch) • Dec 6, 2018

Ohhh!!!
Ok!!!

I respect your desire for this.

Urgent, efficient, perfect service at a moments notice.

And needing these challenges to feel fulfilled in your submission.


Hats off to you!!!!!

rosethorn​(sub female) • Dec 6, 2018

Thanks, for me its a bit like chess with the mental aspect of it. Erm… i genuinely think its a hats off to anyone (Dom) willing to give it a go, its not an easy need to try and meet. x

MasterBear​(other butch) • Dec 6, 2018

My love goes on to say that s types like you are genuinely rare and elite.

Performance in real time that could affect their partners real time job.


There are tons of s types that can do this for 2 or 3 months. But no longer.

There are many D types that can provide this for 2 or 3 months and then cant.


My love says you are a diamond.

rosethorn​(sub female) • Dec 6, 2018

Awww im an odd one, for me it does peek and trough at about 2 to 3 months but it stays a need just the level of it changes if that makes sense?
I also don't do well with adrenaline in general which i suppose is one reason im like this, its a mental game regardless of the rush. I have learned to block the adrenaline, to focus on the game. x