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notavanilla
3 years ago • Apr 23, 2020
notavanilla • Apr 23, 2020
A dom can dom anyone at any time without havng a relationship. A sub can submit to a dom or even to a crowd without any actual relationship to any of them.
Typically a sub submits to a dam/domme and devotes themselves to that person. There could be a poly dom situation but they would most likely know each other and then it could work because the power is agreed to be shared and the sub knows this is between the two. Otherwise you will most likely get conflicts between the power demands of each separate dom.
If you switch then you do submit but there is an exchange of actions but not so much the 24/7 mental control because you still sub as part of being a switch but you share that session time and with it the exchange occurs.
Of course there is all kinds of possibilities but here is a few.

notavanilla
VORTEX​(sub female)
3 years ago • Apr 23, 2020
VORTEX​(sub female) • Apr 23, 2020
It is absolutely ok for s-types to have more than one play partner, if that is something you desire. Within my community, most do - but YMMV. *You* get to decide how you want to practice *your* kink, and if the kinky-version of a "one dick policy" is not something you're into, don't play with people who don't want to do their kink that way.
Dunimos​(dom male)
4 years ago • Jan 31, 2020
Dunimos​(dom male) • Jan 31, 2020
It comes down to natural order... or chain of command dynamics I think.
A leader can and often does lead many, a follower can or perhaps better said must follow one.
Attempting to follow more than one leader would cause tremendous stress and tension on the submissive and would not be healthy in many cases... again, my thought only and by no means the end all be all.

Thanks
yesyes​(sub female)
4 years ago • Jan 29, 2020
yesyes​(sub female) • Jan 29, 2020
There are no rules like that, spoken or unspoken. You do your dynamic however you want to, as long as it makes you happy.

There are different kinds of doms, too, and some that like to top but aren't necessarily doms full-time. Same for subs, different types/roles. And some who like to bottom but may not identify as sub.
notavanilla
4 years ago • Jan 29, 2020
notavanilla • Jan 29, 2020
More than one here is being expressed by 1 plus 1 more, well that equals 2. However in mathematics more than one could mean infinity. You could go to an orgy and stay which would be more than one plus one.
Now if we are only talking about 2 people and the addition of another person within the relationship core 2 then that is one thing. If we are talking about a second relationship that maintains the first relationship then that is something else completely, unless the first dom knows about the addition of a second dom and his personal 1 + 1 relationship with his current sub.. If not it is 2, 1 + 1 relationships. This last option will/will not reveal the creation of a 2, 1 + 1 by the sub. The sub would have to decide to take a second relationship in addition to the first.
Under most circumstances the first dom would at some point figure out the 2, 1 + 1. In fact it should not take too long for them both to figure out that there is someone else involved with this sub. unless one of more of them is absent at least part of the time.

Now if a sub wants to have a full time relationship but has a part time sub.. Then what?
Does the dom have any kind of right to condemn the sub if that sub wants full time but the dom only goes 50% or less?

a few thoughts

notavanilla
Dartman25​(switch male){?}
5 years ago • Dec 27, 2018

More than one person

Dartman25​(switch male){?} • Dec 27, 2018
Tnjoker wrote:
Well I am just going to throw this out there because that is what I do. But how does online/rl play in to this? Or does it even matter? I'm just asking. As far as the responses that have been given, there has been a lot of different insights given and all very informative.
Elcid1323​(neither male)
5 years ago • Dec 26, 2018

Her me Her

Elcid1323​(neither male) • Dec 26, 2018
This is something I have been wanting to get into :meaning two dominant women, as I am a submissive guy and I am very new to the scene. I've known about it but have not thrown myself into the mix, but I'm at that point where I am seeking and learning. this is one experience I want to do. In my case I prefer a closed Triad relationship where both women run the show.
Tnjoker​(dom male){My Harley}
5 years ago • Dec 22, 2018
Well I am just going to throw this out there because that is what I do. But how does online/rl play in to this? Or does it even matter? I'm just asking. As far as the responses that have been given, there has been a lot of different insights given and all very informative.
SirHanz​(dom male){Minx}
5 years ago • Dec 22, 2018
SirHanz​(dom male){Minx} • Dec 22, 2018
One aspect I have not seen in this thread yet is that being dominant often brings out feelings of possessiveness. If a sub submits to another dom it diminishes the control of the first. I can't think of any dom that wants that.
DBH
DBH
5 years ago • Dec 21, 2018
DBH • Dec 21, 2018
I think like any relationship it’s communicating and intention. I’ve had partners where I was not the only Dom. As long as we were reasonably aligned it wasn’t an issue and where the rare issue came up we as the Doms talked it over and made decisions. Also you there’s nothing saying you can’t sub for one and only bottom for others. As long as all agreeand are fed by the relationship structure they choose you can make it what ever you want. There is no “ one true way” and be very wary of anyone who insists there is. My .02.