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MasterBear​(other butch)
5 years ago • Apr 5, 2019
MasterBear​(other butch) • Apr 5, 2019
I'm sorry to tell you but --- there is NOTHING you can do to "make " someone more dominant.


You can tighten up communication issues. Talk expectations. Talk about desires, wants, needs. And all that's really great stuff. But it has an end point.


BDSM has a dance between two people. And when one of them refuses to dance it doesn't really matter which side of the whip their on.



Let me explain this from my POV. When I sit out with a new s type I have expectations. Thoughts. And ideas on how things need to proceed. And if they're not doing their part then why are we together?


And I truly and 100% with my heart believe that every s type needs to ask themselves this very same question. If you are doing all of the work. If you are the one having to jump through hoops to get basics done. Then you need to really rethink whether or not this is the right relationship for you.


I'm sorry if this is harsh.